Rosanne exposes how 'yeah, but' statements sabotage fertility journeys by creating victim mindset and limiting beliefs. She provides a practical 3-step worksheet to identify and eliminate these mental blocks that prevent women from taking action toward their baby dreams.
CarolynAge 45· natural· BabyBefore
Believing age was a limiting factor after IVF failure
Key Shift
Eliminated age-based yeah, but statements and limiting beliefs
After
Conceived naturally despite previous treatment failure
Rosanne exposes how automatic 'yeah, but' statements create victim mindset and prevent action on fertility journeys. She illustrates common patterns like 'yeah, but she's younger' or 'yeah, but that won't work for me' that keep women stuck in limitation rather than possibility.
Using client Carolyn's success story of natural conception at 45 after IVF failure, Rosanne demolishes age-based limiting beliefs. She emphasizes that women who overcome 'yeah, buts' through mindset work can achieve what seems impossible according to statistics.
Rosanne provides a practical worksheet approach to identify limiting beliefs, feel their impact, assess consequences, and take focused action on one specific 'yeah, but' immediately. She warns against overwhelming yourself with too many changes at once.
The episode concludes with fierce encouragement that not taking risks is the only guarantee of fertility failure. Rosanne emphasizes that women who stay 'in the ring' with courage to take action are the ones who win their baby dreams.
“Yeah, buts are ultimately saying, yeah, but that won't work for me. That couldn't possibly work for me. It's about making ourselves other. It's about making ourselves less than.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:04
Yeah, but statements create victim mindset by focusing on why things won't work for you instead of what's possible. They make you believe others have advantages you lack and prevent taking action toward your baby dreams.
“If you're in your mid forties and you're using your age as a yeah, but, make sure you listen to last week's episode with the amazing freaking Carolyn. Pregnant naturally at forty five after IVF failed.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:01
Yes, natural conception at 45 is possible. Age is information, not a verdict on your fertility dreams. Success depends more on mindset and taking action than on age alone.
“Not doing shit is a guarantee of leaving empty handed. Not taking the leap is how you will virtually guarantee that you will leave this journey empty handed.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:06
Not taking action is the only guarantee of leaving your fertility journey empty handed. Women who stay in the ring with the courage to take risks are the ones who achieve success.
“Pick one yeah, but that you know you have to unfuck immediately. Really get after it.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:48
Identify your top 'yeah, but' statements, feel how they affect your body, recognize the consequences of letting them control decisions, then pick one to eliminate immediately through focused action.
“What those yeah buts are about other people have what I don't. It is the stench of victimhood.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:04
Yeah, but statements reflect victim mindset and fear of taking risks. They create the belief that others have advantages you lack and that success isn't possible for your unique situation.
A 3-step process to identify and eliminate limiting 'yeah, but' statements that sabotage fertility success
List your top 5 yeah, buts
Identify your biggest 'yeah, but' statements and feel what it feels like to say them out loud, noticing the sensation in your body from the neck down
Assess the consequences
Ask yourself what happens if you let these five 'yeah, buts' continue to control your decision making on your fertility journey
Pick one to unfuck immediately
Choose one 'yeah, but' that you know you have to eliminate immediately and take focused action on it rather than overwhelming yourself with too many changes
Yeah, but statements are automatic saboteurs that create victim mindset and prevent taking action on fertility dreams
Carolyn overcame the 'yeah, but I'm 45' limiting belief and conceived naturally at 45 after IVF failed, achieving pregnancy within 12 months of doing the Fearlessly Fertile Method program.
Not taking action is the only guarantee of leaving your fertility journey empty handed
Women who stay in the ring with the guts to take risks are the ones who win on their fertility journeys, as demonstrated by Carolyn who took action at 45 despite failed IVF.
Yeah, but statements create the stench of victimhood and make you believe others have what you don't
Common yeah, buts include 'she's rich,' 'she's younger,' 'she's healthier' - all statements that position others as having advantages you lack rather than seeing possibilities for yourself.
Age is a piece of information, not a fucking verdict on your fertility dreams
Carolyn conceived naturally at 45 after IVF failed, proving that age-based yeah, buts belong in the 'yeah, but incinerator' rather than controlling decision making.
Your fertility story is simple: you are a woman on a mission to have a baby, and it's fucking awesome
Instead of complicated victim narratives, successful women like Carolyn who conceived at 45 focus on the simple truth of their mission rather than making excuses.
Yeah, but statements make you focus on what won't work for you instead of what's possible
Common patterns include 'that won't work for me,' 'that couldn't possibly work for me,' creating self-fulfilling prophecies of limitation rather than possibility.
Pick one yeah, but to unfuck immediately rather than overwhelming yourself with a list of 75 things
Making overwhelming lists of changes leads to doing nothing, which kills trust in yourself and your journey. Focused action on one limiting belief creates momentum.
Yeah, but statements are automatic saboteurs that create victim mindset and prevent taking action on fertility dreams
▶ 1:24Not taking action is the only guarantee of leaving your fertility journey empty handed
▶ 3:06Yeah, but statements create the stench of victimhood and make you believe others have what you don't
▶ 7:04Age is a piece of information, not a fucking verdict on your fertility dreams
▶ 6:11Your fertility story is simple: you are a woman on a mission to have a baby, and it's fucking awesome
▶ 3:58Yeah, but statements make you focus on what won't work for you instead of what's possible
▶ 7:24Pick one yeah, but to unfuck immediately rather than overwhelming yourself with a list of 75 things
▶ 8:48“Age determines your fertility chances and success rates”
CONSIDER: Age is just information, not a verdict on your fertility dreams
“Your fertility story is complicated and unique in ways that make success impossible”
CONSIDER: Your story is simple: you are a woman on a mission to have a baby, and it's awesome
“Not taking risks keeps you safe from disappointment on your fertility journey”
CONSIDER: Not taking action is the only guarantee of leaving empty handed
“Not doing shit is a guarantee of leaving empty handed. Not taking the leap is how you will virtually guarantee that you will leave this journey empty handed.”
“Your story is simple. You are a woman on a mission to have a baby, and it's fucking awesome.”
“It's a piece of information. It's not a fucking verdict.”
“What those yeah buts are about other people have what I don't. It is the stench of victimhood.”
“It's the women in the fucking ring with the guts to take risks that win.”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Women who beat the odds on their fertility journey have a visceral 'why' - they know exactly what moments they're fighting for and are more committed to that vision than their excuses or fears
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by focusing on moments like her son Asher inviting her to slumber parties. A woman who DM'd this week got her positive test after 9 years of trying and 5 IVFs by applying this principle.
The fertility success code is not a recipe but a set of indicators - when present, they show a woman will succeed regardless of age, diagnosis, or how many times she's failed
Over 8 years of coaching women to fertility success, Rosanne has observed consistent patterns. A recent client succeeded after 9 years of trying, 5 IVFs and double-digit transfers by following these principles.
You only need one embryo when it's the right one - numbers don't determine your success
Robin had only one embryo from donor eggs after eight eggs were thawed, three fertilized, and only one became viable. That single embryo resulted in her pregnancy at 44.
Accepting donor eggs doesn't mean the baby isn't yours - you're the one carrying and raising the child
Robin initially resisted donor eggs saying 'not me' but shifted to understanding that even though the egg didn't come from her, the baby still came from her through pregnancy and she would be raising it.
