Robin shares her journey from 'clueless' about fertility to miracle mama at 44 with donor eggs. After years of failed IVF cycles and only one embryo from donor eggs, she overcame guilt about her deceased father never being a grandfather and transformed her mindset to achieve pregnancy.
RobinAge 44· donor· Currently 28 weeks pregnantBefore
Devastated, feeling broken, carrying guilt about father never being a grandfather
Key Shift
Transformed guilt into empowerment by carrying father's picture to transfer and accepting donor eggs as her path
After
Confident, accepting divine timing, trusting the process
Robin started her fertility journey at 40, admitting she was completely 'clueless' about fertility clinics and treatments. She went through the standard protocol of IUIs first, then multiple IVF rounds with disappointing results including a round where no eggs fertilized and later a retrieval that yielded zero eggs.
Just as Robin was running out of coverage, her insurance company did an unprecedented revamp giving everyone a clean slate with three new IVF rounds. After finding the Fearlessly Fertile podcast and listening for a year, Robin invested in mindset coaching, asking for it as her only Christmas gift.
When Robin's own eggs were no longer viable, she accepted donor eggs as her path forward. Despite having only one viable embryo from the donor cycle, she transformed her mindset from panic about low numbers to confidence that this one embryo was 'the one.'
Robin carried guilt about her deceased father saying he'd never be a grandfather. A black cat sighting before her transfer triggered this deep grief, but through therapy and mindset work, she transformed this into spiritual support by carrying his picture and letter to her transfer appointment.
Robin's single donor embryo resulted in pregnancy at age 44. Now 28 weeks pregnant and entering her third trimester, she credits her success to mindset transformation, divine timing, and the belief that you only need one embryo when it's the right one.
“I only need one because it's gonna be the one”
— Robin▶ 20:01
Yes, you can absolutely get pregnant with just one embryo. Robin had only one viable embryo from donor eggs after multiple failed IVF cycles and successfully conceived at age 44. Quality matters more than quantity.
“Even though the egg didn't come from me, the baby still didn't come from me, and I'm gonna be the one raising it”
— Robin▶ 10:51
Accept that while the egg doesn't come from you, the baby still grows inside you and you'll be raising them. Focus on your end goal of having a family rather than how you get there.
“One of the things that he the last things that he had said, like, was that he's never gonna be a grandfather. And it, like, hit me, like, really the guilt”
— Robin▶ 25:29
Yes, guilt about deceased loved ones not becoming grandparents can sabotage fertility. Transform this by including them spiritually in your journey rather than carrying guilt about disappointing them.
“I was already forty, so, you know, that's so that's when I had started going”
— Robin▶ 2:54
Age limits vary by clinic, but women in their 40s regularly succeed with donor eggs. Robin conceived at 44 and will give birth at 45, showing advanced maternal age doesn't prevent success with the right mindset and medical support.
“Twelve months passed of me listening to it, I said, okay. This is enough. Like, I could've been part of the, you know, the ladies that had a baby within the past twelve months, and I'm just still listening to the podcast”
— Robin▶ 14:59
Don't just consume content indefinitely. Robin listened for a full year before getting coaching and realized she could have been pregnant in that time if she'd taken action sooner to implement the mindset work.
“I do believe the universe did that because I feel like I wasn't quite ready”
— Robin▶ 20:42
No, setbacks often prepare you for success when the timing is right. Robin got sick before her planned transfer but believes the delay allowed her to strengthen her mindset and support system, leading to success.
Robin's process for healing guilt about her father not becoming a grandfather
Acknowledge the guilt
Recognize that carrying guilt about disappointing deceased loved ones can sabotage your fertility journey
Reframe their desires
Understand they weren't blaming you - they were processing their own unaccomplished life goals
Include them spiritually
Find ways to bring their presence into your fertility journey, like carrying their picture
Write them a letter
Express your feelings and carry their letter with you to appointments as emotional support
Transform guilt to empowerment
Shift from feeling like you're disappointing them to feeling like they're supporting your dream
You only need one embryo when it's the right one - numbers don't determine your success
Robin had only one embryo from donor eggs after eight eggs were thawed, three fertilized, and only one became viable. That single embryo resulted in her pregnancy at 44.
Accepting donor eggs doesn't mean the baby isn't yours - you're the one carrying and raising the child
Robin initially resisted donor eggs saying 'not me' but shifted to understanding that even though the egg didn't come from her, the baby still came from her through pregnancy and she would be raising it.
Guilt about deceased loved ones not seeing grandchildren can sabotage your fertility journey
Robin carried guilt that her father said he'd never be a grandfather before he passed away. She transformed this by carrying his picture and letter to her transfer, reframing his presence as supportive rather than guilt-inducing.
Setbacks and delays often serve a purpose in preparing you for success
Robin got sick before her planned transfer but believes the universe delayed it because she wasn't ready. The extra time allowed her to work on mindset and build her support network, leading to success when she transferred in November.
The insurance system can work in your favor when timing aligns with your journey
Robin's insurance did a revamp giving everyone a clean slate with three new IVF rounds just as she was running out of coverage. This 'divine intervention' allowed her to continue treatment and eventually succeed.
Apparent bad omens can become catalysts for breakthrough when reframed properly
Robin saw a black cat before her transfer and panicked about bad luck. This triggered her to work with her therapist and carry her father's picture to the transfer, transforming guilt into support and leading to her successful pregnancy.
Listening to mindset content isn't enough - you must put the teachings into practice
Robin listened to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast for a full year before getting coaching. She realized that while the content helped, she needed to actively practice the mindset shifts to see real results.
Advanced maternal age stories can be empowering when you find examples of success
Robin was inspired hearing Rosanne had her baby at 43, thinking 'this could be me' when she was also 43. She went on to conceive at 44, showing how success stories at similar ages can fuel belief.
You only need one embryo when it's the right one - numbers don't determine your success
▶ 20:01Accepting donor eggs doesn't mean the baby isn't yours - you're the one carrying and raising the child
▶ 10:51Guilt about deceased loved ones not seeing grandchildren can sabotage your fertility journey
▶ 25:18Setbacks and delays often serve a purpose in preparing you for success
▶ 20:42The insurance system can work in your favor when timing aligns with your journey
▶ 6:41Apparent bad omens can become catalysts for breakthrough when reframed properly
▶ 24:18Listening to mindset content isn't enough - you must put the teachings into practice
▶ 32:00Advanced maternal age stories can be empowering when you find examples of success
▶ 13:58“You need multiple embryos to feel confident about IVF success”
CONSIDER: One embryo is enough when it's the right one - quality over quantity matters most
“Donor eggs mean the baby isn't really yours”
CONSIDER: The baby grows inside you and you're raising them - that makes them completely yours
“Time is running out and working against you in fertility”
CONSIDER: Time often works in your favor by preparing you for success when you're truly ready
“I only need one because it's gonna be the one”
“Even though the egg didn't come from me, the baby still didn't come from me, and I'm gonna be the one raising it”
“The only thing I haven't tried is sooner”
“I know that it's in me, and I just need somebody to to unleash it”
“Black cats are now a lucky charm for you, sister, because clearly, they're not bad luck in your life”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Getting clear on what you truly want is critical to making the right decisions on your fertility journey
Kelly realized she wanted the pregnancy experience specifically, which led her to choose donor egg IVF over adoption. This clarity helped her move from nearly giving up to having her baby girl at 45.
Fear can make you talk yourself out of what you truly want, even convincing yourself you want something completely different
Kelly and her husband convinced themselves they didn't want kids and could 'travel instead' when they were overwhelmed by IVF failure, even though they 'don't even like to travel.' They realized this was fear talking, not their true hearts.
Your timeline is arbitrary - age and number of years trying has no meaning other than what you choose to give it
Marin, featured in episode 84, conceived after 40 despite thinking she had to have a baby by then. Rosanne herself conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure.
Failures can be reframed as evidence of how badass and gangster you are for holding fast to your dreams
Rosanne had 84 failures before conceiving Asher naturally at 43. She teaches that each 'no' may signal a big yes is coming since no one fails all the time.
