Rosanne shares how to build confidence for 2024 by reframing 2023's challenges as growth opportunities. She teaches listeners to look at recent setbacks with gratitude and emotional maturity rather than dwelling on past disappointments.
Rosanne opens with her son's adorable Christmas message and explains why the time between Christmas and New Year's is perfect for preparing for fertility success. She emphasizes focusing attention on things that will actually move you forward rather than dwelling on disappointments.
The key teaching focuses on examining 2023 rather than digging up old wounds from years past. Rosanne explains that you're not the same person you were years ago, making recent experiences more relevant for building current confidence and understanding your capabilities.
Rosanne addresses why we naturally focus on negative fertility stories and teaches how to deliberately look for growth, resilience, and opportunities in challenging experiences. She emphasizes approaching the past with gratitude and emotional maturity rather than anger or victimhood.
The episode concludes with teaching about commitment and follow-through, noting that most people abandon resolutions within 14 days. Rosanne encourages creating concrete plans and treating your word to yourself as unbreakable, while announcing the limited reopening of her Fearlessly Fertile Full Throttle program.
“you can see all of the things that I've pointed out, the resilience, the growth, the development, the opportunities, the growth in faith”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:48
Look back at your recent past with gratitude and emotional maturity rather than anger or victimhood. Make a list of things that didn't go as planned but that you're grateful for, focusing on how experiences deepened your resilience and what you learned.
“the recent past is more of a reflection of who you actually are than the person you were ten years ago, fifteen years ago”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:35
Focus on your recent past rather than digging up ancient wounds from years ago. You're not the same person you were 10-15 years ago, so recent experiences are more reflective of who you actually are now and more useful for building confidence.
“When you're serious about creating what you say you wanna create, your word has to be gold. It has to be like oak.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:17
Make a promise to yourself that you won't give up, and create a concrete plan that you'll follow through on. Your word has to be gold - something you don't trade on. Most people give up on resolutions in 14 days, so commitment is crucial.
“You will have twenty people immediately jump in with some shit story that they wanna share, then you will find people that are willing to have the courage to say, actually, this was a great opportunity for me to learn”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:59
We have a negativity bias on the fertility journey because we hear much more about what goes wrong than what goes right. It's easier to find 20 people sharing negative stories than finding people with courage to share growth and learning experiences.
“this magical time, this beautiful portal that we're walking into between Christmas and New Year's to really set yourself straight, to really get your eyes focused on what you wanna create in twenty twenty four”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:29
Use this magical time to prepare for what's coming in the new year. Direct your attention to things that will move you forward, reflect on 2023 with gratitude, and create a concrete plan you'll commit to following.
A method for building confidence by reframing your recent past with gratitude and emotional maturity
Focus on Recent Past
Look at what happened in 2023 rather than digging up ancient wounds from years ago, since you're not the same person you were back then
Make a Gratitude List
List all the things that didn't go quite as wanted but that you're grateful for, even if this is a wild departure from your normal pattern
Find the Growth
Look for experiences that deepened your resilience and helped you learn, approaching your past with gratitude, emotional maturity, and faith
Extract Confidence Gems
Recognize that this process shows you don't give up on yourself, you're more resilient than you think, and you can do hard things
Create a Committed Plan
Make a concrete plan for 2024 that you'll give your word to follow through on, treating your commitment as gold
Focus on your recent past for confidence building rather than digging up ancient wounds from years ago
Rosanne explains that you're not the same person today that you were when you started 2023, so the recent past is more reflective of who you actually are than the person you were 10-15 years ago
When you're serious about creating what you want, your word has to be gold - it has to be like oak, something you don't trade on
Rosanne notes that most people give up on New Year's resolutions in 14 days, with only a tiny percentage making it past a month, emphasizing the importance of commitment
Look for experiences that helped deepen your resilience and view your past with gratitude, emotional maturity, and faith rather than anger and victimhood
Rosanne explains that this approach shows you three things: you don't give up on yourself, you're more resilient than you think, and you can do hard things to get where you want to be
We have a negativity bias on the fertility journey because we hear so much about what goes wrong versus what goes right
Rosanne points out that you'll have 20 people immediately jump in with negative stories but far fewer willing to share how experiences helped them learn and grow
Smart women take the bull by the horns instead of hiding out and hoping things miraculously change on January first
Rosanne contrasts this with women who drown their sorrows in martinis or hide from their lives for a week, emphasizing the need for a concrete plan you'll follow through on
Focus on your recent past for confidence building rather than digging up ancient wounds from years ago
▶ 3:35When you're serious about creating what you want, your word has to be gold - it has to be like oak, something you don't trade on
▶ 8:17Look for experiences that helped deepen your resilience and view your past with gratitude, emotional maturity, and faith rather than anger and victimhood
▶ 6:23We have a negativity bias on the fertility journey because we hear so much about what goes wrong versus what goes right
▶ 4:38Smart women take the bull by the horns instead of hiding out and hoping things miraculously change on January first
▶ 7:14“You should reflect on your distant past to understand your patterns and build confidence”
CONSIDER: Focus on your recent past because you're not the same person you were years ago - the recent past is more reflective of who you actually are now
“Looking back on fertility challenges will just bring up negative emotions and disappointment”
CONSIDER: Looking at recent challenges with gratitude and emotional maturity reveals growth, resilience, and proof that you can handle hard things
“Hey. Hey, mofos. I can do hard shit, and I can continue to do hard shit to get to where I wanna be.”
“When you're serious about creating what you say you wanna create, your word has to be gold. It has to be like oak.”
“The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.”
“Smart women are gonna take the bull by the horns. They're gonna close out twenty twenty three with confidence”
“I cannot wait for every single one of you listening to have goofy moments like that with your kids.”
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Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
Our finest moments occur when we're deeply uncomfortable because discomfort propels us to step out of our ruts and search for different ways
M. Scott Peck's research shows that discomfort drives us toward truth and better life choices, which Rosanne applies to fertility journeys where women must make thousands of decisions quickly.
When people say they're not comfortable with something, they either don't believe they can have what they want or they're afraid of failing
Rosanne identifies these two core patterns from speaking to thousands of women worldwide, noting that fear of losing money on IVF cycles or making wrong choices keeps women stuck in inaction.
We often overestimate what we can accomplish in one year but underestimate what we can achieve in ten years, especially on the fertility journey
Tony Robbins' principle applied to fertility - Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by understanding fertility as a process rather than a timeline.
A woman who beats the odds focuses her precious energy on what she can love about her journey, not what she lost or what didn't happen
Rosanne demonstrates this principle personally - she focuses on the gifts from her years of treatment failure rather than dwelling on the losses, which led to her natural conception at 43.
