Rosanne teaches how to welcome the new year and new decade wisely by focusing on what you can love about the past year, even the difficult moments. She provides a framework for harvesting lessons from all experiences and rewiring your brain's response to challenges.
Rosanne opens by emphasizing that 2020 represents not just a new year but a new decade full of promise. She shares Tony Robbins' wisdom about overestimating what we can accomplish in one year while underestimating what's possible in ten years, applying this to the fertility journey.
Rather than dwelling on losses and disappointments from the past year, women who beat the odds focus their precious energy on what they can love about their journey. This mindset shift is fundamental to creating success on the fertility path.
Rosanne teaches that everything that presented itself during the year was a gift if you're willing to see it that way. Up moments show how good life can be, down moments reveal resilience, and the in-between times offer preparation and equilibrium.
The practical application involves making a list of 25 things you love about the past year, including finding silver linings in setbacks like canceled IVF cycles or pregnancy losses. This exercise builds emotional maturity and reveals any saboteur beliefs that may be blocking progress.
This practice literally rewires the neuropathway that automatically goes to misery when facing challenges. Developing dominion over your stories creates the unshakable confidence every woman craves on her fertility journey and sets the foundation for an amazing year ahead.
“What can you love about this year that is coming to a close? This is an incredibly important and intelligent question to ask because a wise woman is always harvesting lessons from her peaks, valleys, and everywhere in between.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:14
Focus on what you can love about your experiences, even the difficult ones. Ask yourself what gifts, lessons, or reminders of resilience came from challenging moments. This rewires your brain's response to setbacks.
“make a list of twenty five things you love about twenty nineteen”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:28
Make a list of 25 things you love about the past year, including lessons from difficult experiences. This builds the muscle to focus on growth and gifts rather than losses, creating unshakable confidence for the year ahead.
“I want you to think about why you love twenty nineteen. That is what a woman who beats the odds is thinking. That's where she puts her precious energy.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:13
Welcoming the new year wisely means focusing on what you can love about the past year rather than what you lost or what didn't happen. It's about harvesting lessons from all experiences and using that wisdom to build confidence for the future.
“What can you love about a friend turning their back on you? How can you love that an IVF cycle was canceled? What is the silver lining you can find in a loss?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 3:46
Ask specific questions like 'What can I love about a canceled IVF cycle?' or 'What is the silver lining in a loss?' Focus on how these experiences show your resilience, what permissions you gave yourself, or how you're becoming more visible to yourself and others.
“when you develop this muscle, you can literally rewire the neuropathway in your brain that goes from zero to miserable when waters get rough or shit is just downright uncomfortable and uncertain”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:50
Develop the muscle to focus on love and appreciation in all experiences by consistently asking what you can love about challenging situations. This rewires the neuropathway that automatically goes to misery when faced with uncertainty or discomfort.
“Dominion over your stories is how you create the kind of unshakable confidence and certainty every woman craves on this journey.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:01
Dominion over your stories creates unshakable confidence. This means having the ability to focus on love and appreciation while owning the whole truth about your circumstances, putting you on the path to personal mastery.
A framework for reflecting on the past year in a way that builds confidence and wisdom for your fertility journey ahead
Avoid the victim trap
Resist the lazy temptation to look back on the year with an eye for what you lost, what didn't happen, or the struggle
Ask the right question
Focus on what you can love about the year that's coming to a close - this is where women who beat the odds put their precious energy
Make your list
Write down 25 things you love about the past year, including silver linings from difficult experiences like canceled cycles or losses
Reflect on your list
Take time to consider what you wrote and recognize the strength and emotional maturity it took to find gifts in challenging experiences
Identify blocks
If you can't complete the list, examine what belief is blocking you - chances are it's sabotaging you in other areas too
Build the muscle
Use this practice to rewire your brain's automatic response to go from zero to miserable when faced with uncertainty
We often overestimate what we can accomplish in one year but underestimate what we can achieve in ten years, especially on the fertility journey
Tony Robbins' principle applied to fertility - Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by understanding fertility as a process rather than a timeline.
A woman who beats the odds focuses her precious energy on what she can love about her journey, not what she lost or what didn't happen
Rosanne demonstrates this principle personally - she focuses on the gifts from her years of treatment failure rather than dwelling on the losses, which led to her natural conception at 43.
Everything that presented itself to you this year was a gift, if you're willing to see it that way - the up moments show how good life can be, the down moments remind you of your resilience
This reframing principle helped Rosanne transform years of fertility treatment failure into wisdom that enabled her natural conception at 43 and now helps women across six continents.
You can rewire the neuropathway in your brain that goes from zero to miserable when waters get rough by developing the muscle to focus on what you love about challenging experiences
Rosanne used this neuroplasticity principle to overcome years of fertility treatment failure, ultimately conceiving naturally at 43, and teaches it to help women across the globe beat the odds.
Dominion over your stories is how you create the kind of unshakable confidence and certainty every woman craves on this journey
Rosanne gained dominion over her own fertility story, transforming years of treatment failure into a success story with natural conception at 43, and now teaches this to help women worldwide achieve their dreams.
When you can focus on love and appreciation while owning the whole truth about your circumstances, you put yourself on the path to personal mastery
This balanced approach enabled Rosanne to acknowledge her fertility struggles while maintaining hope, leading to her natural conception at 43 after years of failed treatments.
If you can't come up with 25 things you love about your year, there's likely a saboteur belief blocking you - and it's probably blocking you in other areas beyond this exercise
Rosanne identified and cleared her own saboteur beliefs during her fertility journey, which was essential to her natural conception at 43, and she helps women identify these blocks through her methodology.
We often overestimate what we can accomplish in one year but underestimate what we can achieve in ten years, especially on the fertility journey
▶ 1:23A woman who beats the odds focuses her precious energy on what she can love about her journey, not what she lost or what didn't happen
▶ 2:13Everything that presented itself to you this year was a gift, if you're willing to see it that way - the up moments show how good life can be, the down moments remind you of your resilience
▶ 2:44You can rewire the neuropathway in your brain that goes from zero to miserable when waters get rough by developing the muscle to focus on what you love about challenging experiences
▶ 5:50Dominion over your stories is how you create the kind of unshakable confidence and certainty every woman craves on this journey
▶ 6:01When you can focus on love and appreciation while owning the whole truth about your circumstances, you put yourself on the path to personal mastery
▶ 6:11If you can't come up with 25 things you love about your year, there's likely a saboteur belief blocking you - and it's probably blocking you in other areas beyond this exercise
▶ 5:29“Focus on what you lost, what didn't happen, or the struggle when looking back on your year”
CONSIDER: A woman who beats the odds focuses her precious energy on what she can love about her journey
“Pain and setbacks are just negative experiences to endure”
CONSIDER: Everything that presents itself is a gift if you're willing to see it that way - down moments remind you of your resilience
“we often overestimate what we can get done in one year and underestimate what we can do in ten”
“I want you to think about why you love twenty nineteen. That is what a woman who beats the odds is thinking. That's where she puts her precious energy.”
“Everything that presented itself to you this year was a gift, if you're willing to see it that way.”
“Dominion over your stories is how you create the kind of unshakable confidence and certainty every woman craves on this journey.”
“you can literally rewire the neuropathway in your brain that goes from zero to miserable when waters get rough”
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There's no arbitrary number that says when to quit fertility treatment - the question is how bad do you want what you say you want
Marina did 9 IVF cycles with 15 embryo transfers over 5 years before conceiving her baby boy, proving that persistence with the right mindset can overcome seemingly impossible odds.
You are the common denominator in all of your fertility experiences - changing clinics, countries, and protocols won't work if you don't change yourself
Marina changed clinics multiple times and traveled from Italy to Brazil but didn't get pregnant until she addressed her mindset, conceiving within 4 months of mindset work after 5 years of treatment failure.
If you truly desire something, you can have it - the timeline is completely irrelevant and made up
Rosanne conceived naturally at almost 44, months away from her 44th birthday, after years of treatment failure and being told she was running out of time.
You can choose to be an outlier, not a statistic - there's an X factor where belief, spirit, and faith come in
As a former prosecutor trained in facts and statistics, Rosanne had to make the mental leap to choose being an outlier rather than accepting statistical predictions about her fertility at 43.
