Jo shares her journey from genetic incompatibility and recurrent miscarriage to beach life with baby. After 11 specialists, 8 IVF cycles, 7 transfers, and multiple losses, she traveled to New York where Dr. Murhy discovered a uterine septum that no other doctor had found. Jo's breakthrough came when she stopped putting life on hold and moved to Queensland - conceiving naturally during the move.
Jo· IVF· Currently 20 weeks pregnantBefore
Devastated and stuck after multiple losses, accepting doctors' limitations, putting life on hold
Key Shift
Became relentless medical advocate, trusted inner knowing, stopped waiting to live
After
Confident in decisions, living beach life in Queensland while 20 weeks pregnant
Jo started her fertility journey with casual confidence, assuming kids would happen naturally when the time was right. After her first miscarriage at the end of the first trimester, everything changed - her mama bear instincts kicked in and she knew being a mother was her deepest calling. This loss transformed her from someone who was ambivalent about children to someone who would do absolutely anything to have a baby.
Told she had 'unexplained' recurrent loss, Jo refused to accept this non-answer and embarked on a relentless search for the real causes. She discovered genetic incompatibility requiring immune protocols and eventually traveled to New York where Dr. Murhy found a uterine septum that multiple Australian doctors had missed. Her journey through 11 specialists demonstrates the power of persistent medical advocacy when your heart knows there are answers to be found.
After years of saying 'once we get pregnant, we'll move to Queensland,' Jo and her husband finally decided to stop putting their dream life on hold. In the depths of a cold winter following back-to-back losses, they made the decision to move regardless of their fertility status. Four months later, Jo was packing boxes in her two-week wait, having conceived the baby that would become her beach baby in Queensland.
Now 20 weeks pregnant and living her beach lifestyle in Queensland with her mom nearby, Jo reflects on how surrender doesn't mean giving up - it means trusting your path while taking aligned action. Her story proves that sometimes you have to start living the life you want before your baby arrives, creating space for miracles to unfold in unexpected ways.
“I think I wrapped up, like, eleven specialists along the way, and that's just what we had to do because they weren't doing what we needed.”
— Jo▶ 44:17
Keep going until you find answers. Jo saw 11 different specialists before discovering the root causes of her losses - genetic incompatibility and a uterine septum that multiple doctors had missed.
“Don't feel bad for looking for a second opinion or feeling like, you know, you have to question what the doctor's telling you because no one knows you better than you and no one wants it more than you.”
— Jo▶ 44:17
Absolutely. Jo changed doctors 11 times using the 'if it's not a hell yes, it's a no' principle. Each doctor contributed something different to her journey, and she ultimately found success with her final team.
“Because there's always a reason. There's always a reason. We just haven't found it yet.”
— Jo▶ 13:22
Unexplained infertility really means unexplored - there's always a reason, doctors just haven't found it yet. Jo was told she had unexplained losses but discovered genetic incompatibility and a structural uterine issue.
“I felt like it was just sending the wrong message as well that, you know, we were just stuck and miserable, and we weren't willing to, like, take those steps.”
— Jo▶ 27:36
No, sometimes you need to start living the life you want to shift your energy. Jo and her husband moved to their dream location in Queensland instead of waiting until pregnancy, and she conceived during the move.
“But if you actually sit and listen, your heart will tell you either way... you'll just know and you'll feel I definitely felt a lot of peace with it.”
— Jo▶ 40:11
Listen to your heart, not external pressures. Jo always had a knowing that their baby was out there despite multiple losses, bank account concerns, and physical toll. Your inner voice will tell you either way.
“So it was like this random gene, incompatibility that my husband and I shared, and there was a doctor in Australia. I think there's two doctors in Australia that treat us for it.”
— Jo▶ 13:55
Genetic incompatibility occurs when partners share certain genes that cause the woman's immune system to reject embryos. Jo and her husband had this rare condition requiring immune protocol treatment including injecting his white blood cells into her skin.
“I could go and get it done here in Australia, but I'll never trust the outcome unless doctor Murray does it because he was so convinced and so sure.”
— Jo▶ 18:09
It can be life-changing if you find the right specialist. Jo flew from Australia to New York for surgery with Dr. Murhy, who discovered a uterine septum that no local doctor had found, leading to her successful pregnancy.
“Everything's fine now. It's everything we have everything we need now... you could physically just see this beautiful, you know, uterus that was working properly.”
— Jo▶ 20:23
Jo overcame recurrent miscarriage by discovering two root causes: genetic incompatibility requiring immune treatment, and a uterine septum that was surgically removed in New York. She also stopped putting life on hold and moved to her dream location.
Nobody wants your baby more than you do - trust your instincts over medical authority when something doesn't feel right
Jo saw 11 different specialists before finding Dr. Murhy in New York who discovered a uterine septum that Australian doctors had missed despite multiple laparoscopies. Her persistence led to finding the root cause after years of 'unexplained' losses.
Don't feel bad about getting second, third, or even eleventh opinions - if a doctor doesn't feel right for you, keep searching
Jo changed doctors 11 times before finding the right team. Her final specialist found a genetic incompatibility and treated it with immune protocols, while Dr. Murhy in New York discovered the uterine septum that was causing her losses.
Sometimes you have to stop putting your life on hold for your baby and start living the life you want - surrender doesn't mean giving up
Jo and her husband decided to move to Queensland after years of saying 'once we get pregnant, we'll move.' Four months after making the decision to move regardless, she got pregnant during the transfer process while packing boxes in her two-week wait.
There's always a reason for unexplained infertility - it's just unexplored, not truly unexplained
Jo was told she had 'unexplained' recurrent loss, but persistent investigation revealed both a genetic incompatibility with her husband and a uterine septum that was blocking blood flow to half her uterus.
Your heart will tell you whether to keep going or stop - but you have to block out all the noise to hear it
Jo always had a knowing in her heart that their baby was out there, even through multiple losses. She distinguished between outside pressures (bank account, physical toll, others' opinions) and her inner knowing that kept her going through 8 IVF cycles.
If it's not a hell yes, it's a no - applies to choosing doctors just as much as treatment decisions
Jo used the 'hell yes or hell no' principle to change doctors multiple times, including switching within the same clinic when a highly recommended doctor didn't feel right. This led her to find the specialist who created the embryo that became her baby.
Australian women are gangster enough to get up at 3 AM for their dreams - commitment shows in your actions
Jo got up at 3 AM consistently to participate in Rosanne's program calls due to time zone differences between Australia and the US, demonstrating the level of commitment needed for transformation.
Sometimes the answer requires traveling across the world - be willing to go beyond local limitations
Jo flew from Australia to New York for surgery with Dr. Murhy, who was so confident about finding a uterine septum he offered to pay for her flight if he was wrong. He found exactly what he predicted and restored blood flow to half her uterus.
Visualization becomes powerful when you have concrete evidence - seeing the surgery video changed everything
After Dr. Murhy showed Jo the video of her septum removal and blood flow returning to her uterus, she could visualize embryo transfers differently, seeing 'this beautiful uterus that was working properly.' She conceived on her next transfer cycle.
Resilience means finding another gear within yourself to keep going when everything looks impossible
Jo went through 8 IVF cycles, 7 transfers, multiple natural pregnancies ending in loss, genetic incompatibility treatment, and surgery in another country before achieving her successful pregnancy at 20 weeks.
Nobody wants your baby more than you do - trust your instincts over medical authority when something doesn't feel right
▶ 44:31Don't feel bad about getting second, third, or even eleventh opinions - if a doctor doesn't feel right for you, keep searching
▶ 44:17Sometimes you have to stop putting your life on hold for your baby and start living the life you want - surrender doesn't mean giving up
▶ 27:36There's always a reason for unexplained infertility - it's just unexplored, not truly unexplained
▶ 13:22Your heart will tell you whether to keep going or stop - but you have to block out all the noise to hear it
▶ 40:11If it's not a hell yes, it's a no - applies to choosing doctors just as much as treatment decisions
▶ 30:00Australian women are gangster enough to get up at 3 AM for their dreams - commitment shows in your actions
▶ 8:23Sometimes the answer requires traveling across the world - be willing to go beyond local limitations
▶ 16:47Visualization becomes powerful when you have concrete evidence - seeing the surgery video changed everything
▶ 20:23Resilience means finding another gear within yourself to keep going when everything looks impossible
▶ 10:58“Unexplained infertility means there's no solution and you should accept your fate”
CONSIDER: Unexplained really means unexplored - there's always a reason, you just haven't found the right specialist yet
“You should wait until you're pregnant to make major life changes”
CONSIDER: Sometimes you need to start living the life you want before your baby arrives to shift your energy
“Nobody wants this more than you. And if you don't know how to think and if you don't know how to move past all the negativity and can think critically beyond statistics and having the guts to go, you know, to eleven specialists and say, hey. I'm not stopping.”
“Don't feel bad for looking for a second opinion or feeling like, you know, you have to question what the doctor's telling you because no one knows you better than you and no one wants it more than you.”
“Because there's always a reason. There's always a reason. We just haven't found it yet.”
“I always just it's like this knowing in my heart that there was our baby. Our baby was out there. And I mean, they were showing us so much how much they were trying to get to us.”
“We can't keep putting our lives, all of our lives on hold for what you know, for our baby. Because I felt that it was just sending the wrong message as well that, you know, we were just stuck and miserable.”
“You cannot fuck with Aussie women. I have so much love for all of my ladies, but I have an extra special place in my heart for Aussies and Kiwis that have to get up at, like, dark o'clock to participate in my programs, but they are that gangster.”
“Holy shit. That actually happened. Like and it was the moment, and we didn't necessarily plan it that way... but we didn't wait for the positive pregnancy test to move.”
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