Rosanne teaches how focusing on losses, failures, and what's missing keeps women stuck in low-energy patterns that prevent fertility success. She provides a 7-day tracking exercise to help shift focus from scarcity to abundance.
Rosanne explains how attention creates reality, using the car shopping analogy to show how focus determines what you see and experience. She emphasizes that where energy flows, results follow, making focus the foundation of fertility success.
Many women unconsciously build identity around their fertility struggles, leading conversations with years trying and losses accumulated. This creates a 'sick girl' pattern that keeps them stuck in low-frequency energy that blocks success.
Rosanne provides a practical 7-day exercise to track focus patterns and become aware of unconscious mental habits. This awareness creates the foundation for shifting from scarcity-based thinking to possibility-focused mindset that enables fertility breakthroughs.
“What you put your attention on grows. As the great Tony Robbins says, where your attention goes, energy flows. And the things that we give energy to get bigger.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:26
Your focus creates your reality - what you put attention on grows. Focusing on losses and failures keeps you in low-frequency energy that blocks fertility success, while focusing on possibilities opens pathways to pregnancy.
“We get stuck in patterns. We get stuck in mental ruts. And, you know, for some reason, it just takes less energy to be in negativity, which is crazy because it actually saps more of your energy.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:31
Negative thinking takes less initial energy and becomes self-perpetuating, creating mental ruts. However, staying in negativity actually drains more energy long-term and requires exponential effort to escape the deeper you go.
“I would encourage you for the next seven days to start journaling and keeping track of where your focus is. At the end of each day, take note where was my focus today?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 12:28
Keep a small notebook or use your phone to track where your focus goes each day for 7 days. At the end of each day, note whether your attention was primarily on what you lack or on possibilities and solutions.
“There are also women living this journey who will open up a conversation focused solely on how many years they've been on it, how many miscarriages they've had, and all of the terrible things that have happened.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 8:18
Focus identity happens when you build your sense of self around losses and problems. Like 'the sick girl' who always talks about health issues, some fertility warriors create identity around years trying, miscarriages, and failures rather than their future success.
“If you are in a low frequency and you're always in fear, you're always in negativity, you're always focused on lack and scarcity, that keeps your energy really low.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 10:34
Yes, negative focus keeps you in low frequency energy that affects not just how you feel but also impacts everyone around you. This low energy creates a heavy atmosphere and makes positive change exponentially more difficult.
A 7-day exercise to identify where your attention goes and shift from loss-focused to possibility-focused thinking
Prepare tracking tools
Get a small notebook for your back pocket or use your phone to track focus patterns throughout each day
Daily focus check-ins
At the end of each day for 7 days, write down where your focus primarily went - on losses/failures or on possibilities/solutions
Track without judgment
Be an honest historian of your mental patterns without trying to change them during the tracking week
Look for patterns
After 7 days, review your data to see how often you focused on what you lack versus what you're creating
Use data for change
Apply the awareness gained to consciously redirect focus from loss patterns to success patterns going forward
Your focus determines your fertility journey outcome - what you put attention on grows and creates your reality
Austin conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by shifting from focusing on losses to possibilities. She has coached thousands of women across 6 continents using this principle.
Focusing on losses, failures, and what's missing creates an identity around lack that becomes self-perpetuating
Austin observes women who open fertility conversations with years trying, number of miscarriages, and failures - creating a 'sick girl' identity that keeps them stuck in low-frequency energy patterns.
Negative focus patterns require exponentially more energy to escape the deeper you go, but conscious effort can shift the trajectory
Austin tracked thousands of negative thoughts per day during her own journey and used this data to redirect focus, ultimately conceiving naturally at 43 after treatment failures.
Low-frequency energy from focusing on loss affects not just you but everyone around you, creating a heavy ripple effect
Austin explains that energy fields are scientifically measurable and women stuck in loss-focused patterns report feeling 'blah' and making others feel heavy around them.
Tracking your focus patterns for 7 days reveals unconscious mental habits that sabotage fertility success
Austin used focus tracking during her own fertility journey and has implemented this with thousands of clients globally, helping women identify and shift unconscious negative thought patterns.
The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you - act accordingly
Austin conceived at 43 despite poor prognosis and has helped thousands of women across 6 continents achieve pregnancy by embracing this belief and shifting focus accordingly.
Your focus determines your fertility journey outcome - what you put attention on grows and creates your reality
▶ 2:26Focusing on losses, failures, and what's missing creates an identity around lack that becomes self-perpetuating
▶ 6:35Negative focus patterns require exponentially more energy to escape the deeper you go, but conscious effort can shift the trajectory
▶ 4:42Low-frequency energy from focusing on loss affects not just you but everyone around you, creating a heavy ripple effect
▶ 10:34Tracking your focus patterns for 7 days reveals unconscious mental habits that sabotage fertility success
▶ 12:28The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you - act accordingly
▶ 15:05“It's natural to focus on fertility losses and failures because this journey is hard”
CONSIDER: Focusing on loss creates an identity around lack that perpetuates more loss - discipline your mind to focus on possibilities instead
“Talking about years trying and number of miscarriages is just being honest about your journey”
CONSIDER: Opening conversations with losses and failures indicates where your focus lives and creates low-frequency energy that blocks success
“When you focus on loss, you won't win.”
“The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you. So start fucking acting like it.”
“You cannot out supplement, out treat, out yoga, out acupuncture, a shitty mindset.”
“Where your attention goes, energy flows. And the things that we give energy to get bigger.”
“When you become aware, you are able to change.”
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Worthiness issues from earlier relationships directly impact fertility journey outcomes and decision-making patterns.
Liz spent 10 years in an unhealthy relationship telling herself she didn't want kids rather than facing the reality, then ghosted her future husband because she couldn't believe he liked her for who she was. These same worthiness patterns showed up as immediately running to IVF after one miscarriage at 41.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything - relationship patterns will show up in your fertility journey.
Liz's pattern of feeling unworthy in her relationship (ghosting her husband because she couldn't believe he liked her) directly translated to feeling inadequate about conceiving and immediately seeking medical intervention after one miscarriage instead of trusting her body.
You can meditate all day, but if you don't change the underlying belief system that's causing you to be stuck in 'what if' limited thinking and worst case scenarios, meditation alone won't create change.
Levvenia meditated for years but remained stuck in negative thinking patterns until she addressed her limiting beliefs through mindset work
Owning that you are behaving like a victim is not an accusation - it's an invitation to start creating a different experience.
Levvenia recognized her victim mentality after years of thinking 'it doesn't happen to me, everybody else is getting pregnant' and transformed into an empowered creator
