Rosanne shares a cautionary tale about a woman who did 15 rounds of IVF without addressing her mindset, teaching that treatment isn't always the answer - you are. She provides a practical framework for recognizing when the problem isn't the treatment itself.
Rosanne shares a cautionary tale about a woman who underwent 15 rounds of IVF without success, despite having no physical barriers to pregnancy. The woman recognized her stress and fear were impacting her biology but still believed another treatment was the answer.
The core teaching that treatment isn't always the solution - women themselves are the common denominator in fertility success. Whether pursuing IVF, donor eggs, or natural conception, success begins with addressing internal blocks first.
Rosanne introduces the transformative question 'What needs to be different about me?' as a non-judgmental way to identify patterns like negativity, fear-based decisions, and scarcity mindset that may be preventing success.
“There is a point when we all have to come face to face with the fact that what we're doing isn't working. And the more we run away from what I believe is truly the solution, the greater the price we are at risk of paying.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:29
Ask yourself 'What needs to be different about me?' rather than looking for another treatment. Often repeated treatment failure signals a mindset issue, not a medical one.
“Your body doesn't know the difference between a real saber tooth tiger that's chasing you and an imagined one. Your subconscious doesn't know the difference.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:07
Stress creates fight-or-flight response which suppresses non-lifesaving systems like reproduction. Your subconscious can't tell the difference between real and imagined threats.
“You can be doing all the physical shit and not holding back and doing all the things to support your success. But if you are going in to those treatments expecting to fail... you've gotta ask yourself what's going on.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:01
Mind and body work together - if you're expecting to fail, terrorized by worry, or putting intense pressure on yourself, it affects your biology even during treatment.
“What needs to be different about me? Plain and simple. What needs to be different about me to support my success?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 13:27
'What needs to be different about me?' This non-judgmental question helps identify internal blocks like negativity, fear-based decisions, or lack mindset patterns.
“Is it time that you built up trust in yourself? Is it time that you built up trust in your body? And is it time that you built up trust in this baby?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 12:14
Build trust in yourself, your body, and this baby. Don't let residue from past losses cloud your judgment or distract you from knowing you're meant to be a mom.
A framework for recognizing internal blocks that may be preventing fertility success
Ask the key question
Ask yourself 'What needs to be different about me?' with light, non-judgmental energy
Reject 'I don't know'
Don't accept 'I don't know' as an answer - you do know what patterns aren't serving you
Examine your thoughts
Look at what you actually think about all day - are you making decisions from fear, lack, scarcity, or jealousy?
Consider new possibilities
Drop judgment and allow yourself to consider a new set of data and possibilities for success
Your mind and body work together - you cannot separate them in fertility success
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by addressing her mindset, and coaches women across 6 continents who beat terrible odds through mind-body integration
There is a point when we all have to face the fact that what we're doing isn't working, and the more we run away from the real solution, the greater the price we risk paying
A woman Rosanne spoke with had done 15 rounds of IVF with no medical barriers to pregnancy, yet couldn't see that her stress, fear and negativity were creating the real block
You are the answer - your success on this journey begins and ends with you
Women who appeared on the podcast in 2024 alone with terrible diagnoses and statistics succeeded when they focused on themselves first, regardless of whether they pursued IVF, donor eggs, or natural conception
Elite athletes understand that if something gets in their head, their game is completely off - the same applies to fertility
Super high performing athletes who 'shit the bed' are first asked by their coach what got into their head, because they know mindset is everything in performance
Shame, jealousy, and intense pressure on each cycle messes with your head and causes part of you to shut down
When women put pressure for 'this to be the one cycle that works' they find it hard to get excited, believe, or muster energy to keep going and start agreeing with their sabotage patterns
The powerful question to ask yourself is: 'What needs to be different about me?' - and 'I don't know' is not an acceptable answer
This nonjudgmental question helps women recognize patterns like constant negativity, making decisions from fear and scarcity, which shows up in their results
Multiple rounds of IVF can make you think 'if medicine can't help me, nothing can' - but treatment is simply an opportunity, you are still the answer
Women build cases against themselves based on number of treatment failures, but need to ask what within them can be lovingly adjusted so the next cycle can be different
For recurrent miscarriage, you need to build trust in yourself, your body, and this baby - not let residue from past losses cloud your judgment
Even when pursuing treatment for pregnancy loss, women need to examine what they're saying to themselves about those losses so heavy feelings don't distract them from knowing they're meant to be a mom
Your mind and body work together - you cannot separate them in fertility success
▶ 6:22There is a point when we all have to face the fact that what we're doing isn't working, and the more we run away from the real solution, the greater the price we risk paying
▶ 5:29You are the answer - your success on this journey begins and ends with you
▶ 7:14Elite athletes understand that if something gets in their head, their game is completely off - the same applies to fertility
▶ 8:38Shame, jealousy, and intense pressure on each cycle messes with your head and causes part of you to shut down
▶ 9:09The powerful question to ask yourself is: 'What needs to be different about me?' - and 'I don't know' is not an acceptable answer
▶ 13:27Multiple rounds of IVF can make you think 'if medicine can't help me, nothing can' - but treatment is simply an opportunity, you are still the answer
▶ 10:12For recurrent miscarriage, you need to build trust in yourself, your body, and this baby - not let residue from past losses cloud your judgment
▶ 12:04“If medical treatment fails repeatedly, you're not meant to be a mom”
CONSIDER: Treatment is simply an opportunity - you are the answer and what needs to be different is within you
“Treatment isn't always the answer, but you are. You are the answer. Your success on this journey begins and ends with you.”
“There is a point when we all have to come face to face with the fact that what we're doing isn't working. And the more we run away from what I believe is truly the solution, the greater the price we are at risk of paying.”
“Your body doesn't know the difference between a real saber tooth tiger that's chasing you and an imagined one. Your subconscious doesn't know the difference.”
“What needs to be different about me? Plain and simple. What needs to be different about me to support my success?”
“If you don't have a mindset for success in this journey, baby, you've got a gaping hole in your strategy.”
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The pain and struggle of your fertility journey disappears once you have your baby in your arms - nothing else matters
Trish, who struggled for years before conceiving her daughter Geordie and is now pregnant again, shares that the relief and magnitude of love outweighs all the grief, sadness and disappointment from the journey.
You are the absolute boss and decision maker of your fertility journey - not the doctors
Diana applied this mindset shift to conceive her son and now has two daughters, ages 2 and 2 months. She uses these same techniques for career decisions and all life choices.
Worthiness issues from earlier relationships directly impact fertility journey outcomes and decision-making patterns.
Liz spent 10 years in an unhealthy relationship telling herself she didn't want kids rather than facing the reality, then ghosted her future husband because she couldn't believe he liked her for who she was. These same worthiness patterns showed up as immediately running to IVF after one miscarriage at 41.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything - relationship patterns will show up in your fertility journey.
Liz's pattern of feeling unworthy in her relationship (ghosting her husband because she couldn't believe he liked her) directly translated to feeling inadequate about conceiving and immediately seeking medical intervention after one miscarriage instead of trusting her body.
