Chrissie shares her journey from unexplained infertility and multiple failed treatments to conceiving through IVF after transforming her mindset. She went from doing transfers alone during lunch breaks to boldly declaring 'I'm here to pick up my baby' and calling her shots with precision.
Chrissie· IVF· Baby girlBefore
Doing transfers alone during lunch breaks, trying to control everything, protecting her husband from her emotions, declining baby showers, obsessed with diet and lifestyle changes
Key Shift
Made a bold Mother's Day proclamation with three specific requests and began showing up with complete confidence and joy
After
Walking into clinic declaring 'I'm here to pick up my baby,' communicating desires clearly, saying yes to life, bringing husband and celebration to transfer
Chrissie shares how she and her husband planned everything perfectly — finishing grad school, establishing careers, buying a house — only to face a year of nothing happening followed by the frustrating diagnosis of unexplained infertility. Despite normal tests, three IUI attempts failed completely.
After finding Rosanne's podcast and joining the Fearlessly Fertile Method program, Chrissie began uncovering limiting beliefs about worthiness and timing. She learned to communicate better with her husband, set boundaries, and say yes to life again instead of putting everything on hold.
Chrissie made three bold requests on Mother's Day: her husband's presence at the next transfer, returning to travel, and holding her baby by the following Mother's Day. This marked her shift from hoping to declaring what she wanted.
Instead of sneaking away during lunch, Chrissie approached her third transfer with complete intention — taking the whole day off, bringing her husband, playing their wedding song, and boldly announcing to clinic staff that she was there to pick up her baby.
Every aspect of Chrissie's proclamation came true exactly as declared — her husband attended the transfer, they traveled to Hilton Head the day after the positive test, and Emerson's due date was days before Mother's Day, just as she had requested.
“Unexplained infertility often has an explanation — it's frequently a mindset and energy issue, not a medical mystery”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:12
Focus on what you can control — your mindset, energy, and approach. Often unexplained infertility has an explanation in how you're showing up energetically for your treatments and life.
“I wanted him to be there for the next transfer. I didn't wanna do it alone”
— Chrissie▶ 13:56
Yes, having support during treatments can completely change the energy and outcome. Don't try to protect your partner by doing it alone.
“The process doesn't have to suck. It doesn't have to be so sad”
— Chrissie▶ 10:00
Implement daily gratitude practice, say yes to life again, and focus on what you can control rather than putting life on hold for treatments.
“I walked in there. I said, hi. My name is Chrissie, and I'm here to pick up my baby”
— Chrissie▶ 16:39
Approach with confidence and clear intention. Set the energy by declaring what you're there to accomplish rather than hoping it might work.
“I usually kept that stuff to myself because I didn't want his feelings to be upset either during this process”
— Chrissie▶ 14:57
Be specific about what you want and need. Don't try to protect him by keeping your desires to yourself — clear communication empowers him to support you.
“We stopped traveling because it may line up with another procedure or another treatment. So I was like, we're gonna say yes to everything”
— Chrissie▶ 10:51
Don't put your life on hold. Babies want to join a vibrant, joyful life, not one where you're waiting and restricting yourself.
Steps to shift from fear-based medical procedures to empowered, joyful experiences
Take the whole day off
Don't squeeze treatments into lunch breaks. Give yourself space and time to approach with intention.
Bring your support system
Include your partner or support person rather than trying to protect them by going alone.
Set the energy
Play meaningful music, bring meaningful objects, and declare your intention with confidence.
Make bold proclamations
Clearly state what you want and when you want it, creating accountability to your desires.
Celebrate the process
Treat treatments as steps toward your baby rather than medical procedures to endure.
Unexplained infertility often has an explanation — it's frequently a mindset and energy issue, not a medical mystery
Chrissie was diagnosed with unexplained infertility after all tests came back normal, but after transforming her approach from fear-based to empowered, her third IVF transfer worked when she walked in declaring 'I'm here to pick up my baby.'
How you show up for your transfer matters — the energy and intention you bring can completely change the outcome
Chrissie's first two transfers failed when she went alone during lunch breaks and returned to work immediately. Her successful third transfer happened when she took the whole day off, brought her husband, played their wedding song, and held a challenge coin while declaring her intention.
The process doesn't have to suck — you can find joy and fun even in the midst of fertility treatments
Chrissie transformed her experience by asking her husband for surprise Friday night dates, saying yes to invitations again, and making her final transfer a celebration with music and intention rather than a medical procedure to endure.
Making bold proclamations about what you want creates accountability to your desires and shifts your energy
Chrissie's Mother's Day proclamation included three specific requests: her husband at the transfer, traveling again, and holding her baby by the next Mother's Day. All three happened exactly as she declared, with her due date falling days before Mother's Day.
Advocating for yourself medically can uncover missing pieces in your fertility puzzle
Chrissie researched and requested a test her doctor hadn't run simply because insurance didn't cover it. The test provided answers and the medical journal about it was published on her birthday — what she calls a 'wink from Gus.'
Transitioning from masculine control energy to feminine receptive energy transforms relationships and outcomes
Chrissie went from trying to protect her husband and do everything herself to expressing her desires clearly, asking for fresh flowers, and allowing him to plan surprise dates, which strengthened their relationship and her ability to receive.
Daily gratitude practice shifts focus from what's missing to abundance that already exists
Chrissie and her husband implemented a daily gratitude practice during her program and continue it today, which helped her see 'winks from Gus' and maintain faith even during failed cycles.
The 'Remember When' game helps you embody the reality of your future success before it happens
During the Remember When exercise, Chrissie said she would tell her baby 'you are perfectly on time' — and those were the exact first words she spoke when Emerson was placed on her chest, bringing her to tears.
Stopping life while trying to conceive actually repels the baby — they want to join a vibrant, joyful life
Chrissie stopped traveling and attending events 'just in case' it interfered with treatment cycles, but once she started saying yes to life again and planning trips, she conceived and celebrated with a beach vacation the day after her positive test.
Unexplained infertility often has an explanation — it's frequently a mindset and energy issue, not a medical mystery
▶ 2:12How you show up for your transfer matters — the energy and intention you bring can completely change the outcome
▶ 8:57The process doesn't have to suck — you can find joy and fun even in the midst of fertility treatments
▶ 10:00Making bold proclamations about what you want creates accountability to your desires and shifts your energy
▶ 13:56Advocating for yourself medically can uncover missing pieces in your fertility puzzle
▶ 12:32Transitioning from masculine control energy to feminine receptive energy transforms relationships and outcomes
▶ 23:34Daily gratitude practice shifts focus from what's missing to abundance that already exists
▶ 15:17The 'Remember When' game helps you embody the reality of your future success before it happens
▶ 29:37Stopping life while trying to conceive actually repels the baby — they want to join a vibrant, joyful life
▶ 10:51“You should suffer in silence during fertility treatments to protect your partner's feelings”
CONSIDER: Clear communication about your desires and needs empowers your partner to support you and strengthens your relationship
“Fertility treatments are medical procedures you must endure with clinical detachment”
CONSIDER: How you show up energetically for treatments matters — bringing joy, intention, and support transforms the experience
“I walked in there. I said, hi. My name is Chrissie, and I'm here to pick up my baby”
“The process doesn't have to suck. It doesn't have to be so sad”
“Emerson, you are perfectly on time”
“You're like freaking babe Ruth, like, you know, calling your shots, basically”
“She's crying. Fine. Let's go like, let's nurse her and let's cuddle her. Like, this is what I dreamed of”
“How is he supposed to know I love fresh flowers if I don't tell him?”
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