Claudio shares his husband's perspective on supporting his wife Marina through years of fertility struggles. From watching her transform through mindset coaching to becoming parents to two boys, he offers rare insight into the male experience of this journey.
Marina· IVF· Two baby boysBefore
Struggling for years with failed treatments, mood swings, disappointment, not being the best version of herself
Key Shift
Started from scratch in new environment with mindset coaching, regained energy and started thinking positively
After
Transformed from day one of coaching, became pregnant within months, went on to have second baby easily
Claudio shares the often unheard perspective of men watching their wives struggle with infertility. He emphasizes the importance of unwavering optimism and understanding that relationship quality suffers during this challenging time, but it's temporary in service of the ultimate goal of family happiness.
Despite initial skepticism about coaching, Claudio witnessed Marina's immediate transformation from day one of starting Rosanne's program. Her renewed energy and positive thinking marked a complete mindset shift that led to pregnancy within months after years of struggle.
Marina's journey from years of failed treatments to two successful pregnancies demonstrates the power of mindset work. The second baby came easily, with Claudio noting less stress since they already had one child, showing how success builds momentum.
“I guess the best we can do is just being extremely optimistic about it and and try to give, like, good vibes.”
— Claudio▶ 5:00
Men should be extremely optimistic, provide good vibes, and understand their wives may not be their best selves during this challenging time. The decision to continue or stop treatments must come from the woman.
“From day one, she changed. From day one, she changed...she really regained energy. She started thinking differently.”
— Claudio▶ 18:02
Men can see immediate changes including renewed energy, different thinking patterns, and more positive outlook. The transformation often happens from day one of starting the mindset work.
“She don't wanna deal with sympathy during failures, which I agree.”
— Claudio▶ 13:31
Privacy can be protective to avoid unwanted sympathy during failures, but the experience makes couples more compassionate toward others facing similar struggles.
“The quality of a relationship is absent a lot...you stop enjoying also your life.”
— Claudio▶ 7:48
Yes, fertility struggles significantly impact relationships through mood swings, disappointment, and couples stopping enjoyment of their life together. Understanding this is temporary helps partners cope.
“If you wanna stop, I'm not gonna be the one who is pushing...would have been really unfair.”
— Claudio▶ 24:05
Men should never suggest stopping treatments because they don't face the same physical demands. The decision must come entirely from the woman, while men provide support regardless of her choice.
When women are truly committed to becoming mothers, that unwavering determination deserves a positive outcome - there is justice in the universe for that level of effort
Marina put extraordinary effort into her fertility journey, with Claudio noting 'if she put better effort into becoming US president, she would do it.' This commitment led to two baby boys after years of struggle.
Men's role is to be extremely optimistic and give good vibes because the fertility process takes enormous energy from women
Claudio maintained unwavering optimism throughout Marina's journey, believing 'we were going to' succeed even when she doubted. This support was crucial during her transformation and ultimate success.
The fertility journey affects relationship quality significantly due to mood swings, disappointment, and couples stopping enjoying their life together
Claudio experienced this firsthand with Marina, noting 'the quality of a relationship is absent a lot...you stop enjoying also your life' during their years of fertility struggles before her mindset transformation.
Men must accept that their wives may not be the best version of themselves during fertility struggles, understanding it's for the ultimate goal of family happiness
Claudio observed that Marina 'wasn't the best version of herself as a wife or as a woman' during treatment but understood this was temporary, leading to 'super fun' and 'so much joy' once their sons arrived.
Mindset coaching creates immediate visible change - women transform from day one of starting the work
Claudio witnessed Marina's transformation immediately after starting Rosanne's program: 'From day one, she changed...she really regained energy. She started thinking differently...really positives today.' This led to pregnancy within months.
Starting from scratch in a new environment can be the perfect time for mindset transformation and letting go of what wasn't working
Marina moved from Italy to Brazil and started fresh with mindset work, which Claudio believes was 'the perfect time when she really left a lot of things that were not working back in Italy' leading to her pregnancy success.
Men can become more sensitive to fertility struggles after experiencing it firsthand, stopping the casual questioning about when couples will have children
Claudio learned to 'stop asking about people, why are you not having kids' after going through the journey with Marina, understanding the pain behind the common question in Italian culture.
The decision to stop or continue fertility treatments must come from the woman - men should only provide support, not direction
Claudio told Marina 'if you wanna stop, I'm not gonna be the one who is pushing' because pushing would be 'really unfair' since women go through 'a lot of medication, a lot of stress' while men don't face the same physical demands.
When women are truly committed to becoming mothers, that unwavering determination deserves a positive outcome - there is justice in the universe for that level of effort
▶ 5:00Men's role is to be extremely optimistic and give good vibes because the fertility process takes enormous energy from women
▶ 5:00The fertility journey affects relationship quality significantly due to mood swings, disappointment, and couples stopping enjoying their life together
▶ 7:48Men must accept that their wives may not be the best version of themselves during fertility struggles, understanding it's for the ultimate goal of family happiness
▶ 8:38Mindset coaching creates immediate visible change - women transform from day one of starting the work
▶ 18:02Starting from scratch in a new environment can be the perfect time for mindset transformation and letting go of what wasn't working
▶ 18:34Men can become more sensitive to fertility struggles after experiencing it firsthand, stopping the casual questioning about when couples will have children
▶ 14:56The decision to stop or continue fertility treatments must come from the woman - men should only provide support, not direction
▶ 23:55“Couples should keep fertility struggles completely private to avoid pity”
CONSIDER: Privacy can be protective but understanding others' journeys creates compassion and better support
“Men don't need coaching or support during fertility journeys since they're not doing the physical work”
CONSIDER: Coaching works regardless of who it's for, and the proof is in the results achieved
“If she put better effort into becoming US president, she would do it. That kind of commitment she had.”
“From day one, she changed. From day one, she changed.”
“I believe when you really want something and you put a lot of effort, like, Marina put better effort...you can achieve everything.”
“If you are a woman, if she wanna be a mother, she she's gonna be a mother...She will do it without me. I'm sure.”
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Fertility Success Story: 10 Years to Baby Girl
After 10 years of fertility struggles and being told she needed donor eggs at 36, Levvenia transformed her victim mindset and conceived naturally at 43.
Crisis is an opportunity to see yourself as a solution seeker rather than a victim
Rosanne Austin conceived naturally at 43 using this mindset approach after becoming more fertile in her forties than her thirties
At the same time a crisis shows up, the solution must exist at the same time
Austin has coached thousands of women globally whose crises were all eventually resolved - 'nobody's still stuck five years ago'
Women struggling with fertility often internalize failed treatments and take on the identity of a 'fertility fuck-up,' especially high achievers who aren't used to struggling
Austin observes from 11+ years of coaching that go-getters who are 'absolutely slain in their lives' become entirely different people as months, years, and treatments stack without success
You are not your diagnosis, statistics, or what medical professionals say you are - you get to decide your identity on this journey
Austin emphasizes rejecting labels like 'geriatric,' 'poor responder,' or 'difficult case' that medical professionals assign
