Rosanne teaches successful professional women how to redefine motherhood on their own terms rather than conforming to traditional expectations. She challenges listeners to embrace their 'freakishness' as high achievers and create a unique approach to parenting that honors both their professional success and authentic selves.
Rosanne challenges high-achieving women to own their 'fucking weird' nature as professionally successful individuals. She explains that women who are physicians, lawyers, engineers, and artists represent a small percentage of the population who sacrificed and prepared for success, making them fundamentally different from average mothers.
The episode explores why women shouldn't measure themselves against their mothers' approach to parenting. Rosanne emphasizes that most mothers had wildly different experiences and choices, and comparison leads to stress and potential shutdown around motherhood concepts.
Rosanne teaches that there's no single measure of great motherhood and women don't need to be traditional to be amazing mothers. She shares her own non-traditional approach of running a global business while successfully parenting her son for eight years.
The episode guides listeners to ask themselves what kind of mother they want to be, independent of external expectations. Rosanne emphasizes that authentic motherhood emerges from individual values combined with responsiveness to each child's specific needs and personality.
Rosanne concludes by encouraging focus on lasting legacy rather than conforming to motherhood stereotypes. She teaches that what matters most is children knowing they're loved daily and feeling welcome to share their feelings and be truly seen and heard.
“When you are extraordinary, you're not gonna use ordinary measures of what motherhood should look like.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:01
High-achieving women need to embrace that they're extraordinary and create their own unique approach to motherhood rather than using ordinary measures. They should focus on what kind of mom they want to be, separate from societal expectations.
“Your mom was your unique experience and you get to choose to be something different.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:35
No, you are not your mother and shouldn't hold yourself to standards measured against what your mom would do. You can appreciate her example while choosing to do something wildly different that fits your unique circumstances and values.
“You don't have to be trad to be rad.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:38
No, you don't have to be traditional to be an amazing mother. There's no single measure of what makes a great mom - it ultimately depends on your child's needs and creating an authentic relationship that works for your unique family.
“The title of this podcast was Legacy Over Labels. What's the legacy that you wanna have with your children?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 13:45
Focus on legacy over labels - what matters is the lasting relationship you create with your child. The key is ensuring your child knows you love them daily and feels welcome to share their feelings and be heard.
“How do you as an individual thinking intelligent sentient being want to be as a mom? Totally separate of what society may expect, what your mother may expect, and maybe even what your partner, if you happen to be partnered, expects.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 11:20
Ask yourself what you want to be as a mom, totally separate from societal expectations, what your mother expects, or even what your partner expects. Some of your mothering style will also be shaped by your child's actual needs once they're born.
“I don't ascribe to the idea that we as women, in order to be great moms, have to completely sacrifice ourselves, our own personal satisfaction, our own personal freedom for our children. For me, it's a yes and.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 16:52
Yes, it's a 'yes and' situation where you can be happy and satisfied in your life and your children can be better for it. You don't need to martyr yourself to prove you're a great mom - it's about knowing you're a great mom and adapting together.
A framework for creating an authentic approach to motherhood that honors your professional success and individual values
Embrace Your Extraordinary Nature
Acknowledge that as a professionally successful woman, you're 'fucking weird' and different from average. Stop using ordinary measures of motherhood success.
Release Your Mother's Model
Recognize you are not your mother and don't need to hold yourself to her standards. Take the good experiences as building blocks and leave negative ones as lessons.
Reject Traditional Requirements
Understand you don't have to be traditional to be an amazing mother. There's no single measure of what makes a great mom.
Define Your Desired Motherhood
Ask yourself what kind of mom you want to be, separate from societal expectations, your mother's expectations, or your partner's expectations.
Adapt to Your Child's Needs
Allow your mothering style to be shaped by your actual child's personality and needs once they're born, creating something unique together.
Focus on Legacy Over Labels
Prioritize creating a lasting relationship where your child knows they're loved, can share feelings, and feel seen and heard rather than conforming to motherhood stereotypes.
Successful professional women are 'fucking weird' and should embrace their extraordinary nature rather than using ordinary measures of motherhood
Rosanne coaches physicians, lawyers, teachers, nurses, engineers, and artists from all over the world - women at the top of their professional game who sacrificed and studied while others partied, making them a small percentage of the population.
You are not your mother and should not hold yourself to standards measured against what your mom would do
Rosanne explains that most women's mothers had wildly different experiences and choices available to them, and comparing yourself to your mother leads to stress, worry, comparison, and potentially shutting down around motherhood.
You don't have to be traditional to be an amazing mother - there's no one measure of what makes a great mom
Rosanne describes her own non-traditional approach: she runs a global coaching company, has written five books, does a weekly podcast, appears on TV, and travels extensively while still being a great mom to her son through clean eating, homemade bread, and adapting to his needs.
The better question is not how to be like other mothers, but what kind of mom you want to be
Rosanne emphasizes asking yourself what you want to be as a mom, totally separate from societal expectations, what your mother expects, or even what your partner expects - creating something unique to your individual needs and values.
Motherhood should be shaped by the needs of your actual child, not predetermined labels or images
Rosanne shares how she adapted to her active, curious boy who loves climbing trees, pretending to shoot arrows, hunting, and playing rough - acknowledging she doesn't like playing in mud but finds other ways to connect that suit both their personalities.
You don't have to completely sacrifice yourself and your personal satisfaction to be a great mother
Rosanne refuses to do multiple sports every weekend, calling it martyrdom, and believes in a 'yes and' approach where both mother and children can be happy and satisfied, having raised her son for eight years with this philosophy.
Focus on legacy over labels - what matters is that your child knows you love them and feels welcome to share their feelings
After eight years with her son, Rosanne has found that knowing daily that you love them, that they can talk to you, be seen and heard, and that you're there when you can be is enough for creating a lasting legacy.
Successful professional women are 'fucking weird' and should embrace their extraordinary nature rather than using ordinary measures of motherhood
▶ 3:46You are not your mother and should not hold yourself to standards measured against what your mom would do
▶ 7:03You don't have to be traditional to be an amazing mother - there's no one measure of what makes a great mom
▶ 9:48The better question is not how to be like other mothers, but what kind of mom you want to be
▶ 11:10Motherhood should be shaped by the needs of your actual child, not predetermined labels or images
▶ 14:38You don't have to completely sacrifice yourself and your personal satisfaction to be a great mother
▶ 17:01Focus on legacy over labels - what matters is that your child knows you love them and feels welcome to share their feelings
▶ 17:54“Successful women should use ordinary measures of what motherhood should look like”
CONSIDER: When you are extraordinary, you cannot use ordinary measures of motherhood - you must create your own unique approach
“Good mothers should model themselves after their own mothers or follow their example”
CONSIDER: You are not your mother and get to choose something wildly different entirely of your own creation
“Great mothers must completely sacrifice themselves and their personal satisfaction for their children”
CONSIDER: It's a 'yes and' - you can be happy and satisfied in your life and your children can be better for it
“Face it, mama. You're fucking weird. And I say that with so much love and so much respect because as women who are professionally successful, we are just different.”
“When you are extraordinary, you're not gonna use ordinary measures of what motherhood should look like.”
“You don't have to be trad to be rad.”
“Your mom was your unique experience and you get to choose to be something different.”
“Legacy Over Labels. What's the legacy that you wanna have with your children?”
“I don't ascribe to the idea that we as women, in order to be great moms, have to completely sacrifice ourselves, our own personal satisfaction, our own personal freedom for our children. For me, it's a yes and.”
“Fuck the labels. Fuck the past. Fuck what anybody else might think of you and the way you do the mom job. Stand in your power, create something unique, and don't live in the shadow of moms in the past.”
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EP208 Recession Proof Your Relationship
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There's a fundamental difference between wanting a baby from lack versus being ready to receive one - wanting comes from what isn't here, while readiness focuses on preparing for what's to come
Rosanne observed this shift in all successful clients featured on her podcast over 200+ episodes, noting when 'the switch flips' from chasing energy to confident readiness
Being ready to receive has an innate emotional maturity, confidence, peace and calm that is decidedly different from the desperate energy of 'when is my baby gonna get here?'
Rosanne describes recognizing this shift in all women who achieved success on her podcast, noting it's 'truly a beautiful thing' to observe when the transformation happens
The value of not making mistakes or being perfect can sabotage fertility success because perfect conditions rarely exist, and sometimes imperfect circumstances create the openness needed for conception
Rosanne notes that very rarely are conditions exactly textbook perfect, and even when they are, that doesn't guarantee success - sometimes the most imperfect circumstances are the perfect circumstances that create openness for getting and staying pregnant
Treating having a baby like a budget line item instead of recognizing it as a top life event and heart-based calling will limit your success on the fertility journey
Rosanne explains that having a baby is right up there with top life events, but people treat it as just a budget line item, comparing spending $60,000 on fertility treatments to buying a car when they're completely different investments
