After losing her beloved chihuahua Tiberias, Rosanne reflects on how we block ourselves from love by creating hierarchies between different types of relationships. She challenges the belief that only the love from our future children truly counts, arguing that receiving all forms of love - from pets, friends, and family - actually opens us up to attract the baby we desire.
Cam· IUI· Became a mamaBefore
Three long years of fertility struggles
Key Shift
Applied Rosanne's approach and lessons about receiving love from her book and podcast
After
Successfully conceived on second IUI
Rosanne shares an inspiring email from Cam, who conceived after three years of trying by applying the principles from Rosanne's book and podcast. This success story demonstrates that the desire in your heart to be a mom exists because it was meant for you, and that consistency in applying mindset principles creates breakthrough results even without direct coaching.
Through her recent loss of beloved chihuahua Tiberias, Rosanne reveals how creating hierarchies between different types of love blocks us from unconditional love. She challenges the belief that only parental love truly counts, explaining that this conditional thinking prevents us from knowing what unconditional love actually is.
Rosanne defends the maternal value of loving pets, sharing how her chihuahuas and chocolate lab taught her patience, compassion, and nurturing during her fertility journey. She argues that dismissing animal relationships as 'less than' human ones blocks the very love and preparation that supports fertility success.
Rather than either/or thinking about love, Rosanne teaches a 'yes, and' approach that allows you to receive all forms of love simultaneously. She explains that the more love you allow into your life right now, the brighter you shine as a beacon attracting your future baby home to you.
“The relationship we have with our animals is one that is exceedingly rich and wonderful preparation for the patience, tenacity, compassion, and pure love that we can have in our relationships with our children.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:21
Love from pets provides valuable preparation for motherhood by developing patience, compassion, and nurturing skills. More importantly, receiving this love with an open heart keeps you in a receptive state that actually attracts your future baby rather than blocking it.
“If you're putting conditions on love and engaging and believing that there's some kind of hierarchy to love, how the fuck are you ever gonna know what unconditional love is?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:16
Creating hierarchies between different types of love blocks you from experiencing unconditional love and actually prevents you from attracting what you desire most. When you put conditions on love by saying some forms are better than others, you can't truly know unconditional love.
“The relationship we have with our animals is one that is exceedingly rich and wonderful preparation for the patience, tenacity, compassion, and pure love that we can have in our relationships with our children.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:21
Yes, pets provide excellent preparation for motherhood by teaching patience, compassion, and nurturing skills. The daily care, unconditional love, and emotional support pets require and provide are valuable training for the maternal relationship.
“The more she lets it in, the brighter she shines like a beacon waving that baby that she wants with all of her heart straight home.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:45
Receiving all forms of love with an open heart creates a receptive energy that attracts your desired baby. Blocking love or dismissing it as 'not enough' actually blocks your fertility goals by closing your heart and dimming your energetic beacon.
“What if instead of pitting the loves we have in our lives against one another or engaging in some sick and twisted grading system for what love is valuable and what isn't. We just fucking received it in whatever form we are blessed to have it.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:02
Ranking types of love creates conditions and blocks you from experiencing true unconditional love. This either/or thinking prevents you from receiving the love that's available right now, which actually supports attracting the love you desire most.
A framework for opening your heart to all love in your life rather than creating hierarchies that block fertility
Recognize Love Hierarchies
Notice when you dismiss love from pets, friends, family as 'not enough' or 'not the same' as parental love
Practice 'Yes, And' Thinking
Replace either/or thinking with 'yes, and' - yes this dog loves me AND it makes me happy, yes I love these children in my life AND I want my own
Actively Receive Current Love
Kiss your pets, hug nieces and nephews, tell people you love them - don't wait for your baby to start receiving love fully
Shine Your Beacon Brighter
Understand that the more love you let in now, the brighter you shine as a beacon attracting your future baby home
Creating hierarchies between different types of love blocks us from experiencing unconditional love and attracts what we desire most
Cam, who followed Rosanne's approach through her book and podcast, conceived after three years of trying on her second IUI by applying these mindset principles about receiving love.
The relationship with our animals provides rich preparation for the patience, tenacity, compassion, and pure love needed in relationships with children
Rosanne's own experience with her chihuahuas and chocolate lab Jake taught her maternal skills that prepared her for conceiving naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure.
Receiving love should be about 'yes, and' rather than either/or propositions - allowing all forms of love to coexist and nurture us
Rosanne demonstrates this through her own journey, receiving love from her pets during her darkest fertility moments while remaining open to her future child, ultimately conceiving naturally at 43.
Blocking love that feeds your soul and nurtures your heart prevents you from putting one foot in front of the other on your fertility journey
During Rosanne's darkest fertility moments, her chihuahuas Tiberias and Diego would lie in bed with her as she nursed disappointment and heartbreak, providing the emotional support that kept her going until her natural conception at 43.
The more love you let in, the brighter you shine like a beacon waving that baby straight home to you
Cam's success story demonstrates this principle - by following Rosanne's approach of receiving love fully while maintaining her fertility goal, she conceived after three long years on her second IUI.
Creating hierarchies between different types of love blocks us from experiencing unconditional love and attracts what we desire most
▶ 3:45The relationship with our animals provides rich preparation for the patience, tenacity, compassion, and pure love needed in relationships with children
▶ 6:21Receiving love should be about 'yes, and' rather than either/or propositions - allowing all forms of love to coexist and nurture us
▶ 7:12Blocking love that feeds your soul and nurtures your heart prevents you from putting one foot in front of the other on your fertility journey
▶ 8:44The more love you let in, the brighter you shine like a beacon waving that baby straight home to you
▶ 9:45“Only the love from your future children truly counts or compares to what you'll experience as a mother”
CONSIDER: All forms of love - from pets, family, friends, and children in your life - are valuable preparation for motherhood and actually attract your baby by keeping your heart open
“The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it was meant for you.”
“If you're putting conditions on love and engaging and believing that there's some kind of hierarchy to love, how the fuck are you ever gonna know what unconditional love is?”
“Receiving true love isn't an either or proposition. It's all about the and. Yes, and.”
“The more she lets it in, the brighter she shines like a beacon waving that baby that she wants with all of her heart straight home.”
“Don't be the sad, ignorant bitch that can't see the truth all around her, that she has love in her life.”
EP260 They Said Donor Eggs Were Her Only Option…She Got Pregnant Naturally Over 40: Tanya’s Story
After five years of trying and three failed IVF cycles, Tanya was told donor eggs were her only option—but she got pregnant naturally at 40 while training for a half marathon.
EP297: Pregnant Naturally at 47: Linda’s Story
Meet Linda, who was told she was 'too old' at 39 but went on to have two babies - one at 45 with donor eggs and another naturally at 47, proving that miracles come in many forms for those who choose to believe.
EP288: The Break Glass In Case of Fertility Freakout Episode
The most powerful episode to save for your darkest fertility moments - Rosanne's fierce wake-up call that will snap you out of despair and back into your power.
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
Key Shifts
You can become more fertile in your 40s than you were in your 30s when you shift your mindset
Tanya conceived naturally at 40 after five years of trying in her 30s, including three failed IVF cycles and being told donor eggs were her only option.
Delays in your fertility journey can be divine delays preparing you for the right timing
Tanya needed to wait four months to see a specialist, which gave her time to complete the Fearlessly Fertile program and shift her mindset before conceiving naturally.
Mindset is healthcare - it brings your body and mind into harmony and empowers you to see new opportunities and think strategically
Linda was told she was 'too old' at 39 and again at 42, had 4 miscarriages, but through mindset work conceived via donor egg at 45 and naturally at 47
When you are different, you make different decisions and your different decisions create different results
Linda transformed from a control-driven type A perfectionist to someone who surrendered and trusted, leading to two successful pregnancies after years of failure
