This episode reveals the fifth fertility success principle: playing the long game. Rosanne explains how women who beat the odds maintain steady determination and strategic thinking, refusing to be derailed by temporary setbacks or disappointments.
Rosanne establishes that successful fertility journeys require the same strategic thinking as elite athletes. She emphasizes this isn't about judgment but about recognizing patterns that lead to success versus self-sabotage.
Using the childhood song as metaphor, Rosanne contrasts women who waiver with each setback against those who plant both feet firmly in their commitment to motherhood. The latter understand this calling as part of their soul's purpose.
With couples investing minimum $60,000 in IVF, Rosanne argues that comprehensive mind-body support becomes essential rather than optional. Long game players cover their bases and make strategic rather than penny-wise decisions.
The fertility journey serves as preparation for parenthood, requiring emotional maturity to handle challenges. Rosanne distinguishes between showing up as a responsible adult versus reacting like a child when things don't go as planned.
“Women who beat the odds on this journey have their eye on the long game. Put another way, women who succeed on this journey are tenacious, committed, and not easily spooked.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 4:27
Playing the long game in fertility means maintaining steady determination and strategic thinking despite setbacks. It involves making big, bold decisions that support your ultimate success rather than getting derailed by temporary disappointments or negative pregnancy tests.
“Depending on the data you review, the average couple invests a minimum of sixty thousand dollars in IVF to get a positive result.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:32
According to fertility data, the average couple invests a minimum of $60,000 in IVF to get a positive result. This significant investment makes it crucial to support both mind and body to maximize success.
“For the woman who beats the odds, that song goes, you put your right foot in, you put your left foot in, and it ends there. She keeps her feet firmly planted there. She's all fucking in.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:29
Women who succeed on fertility journeys are fully committed - they're 'all fucking in' and 'not leaving without their baby.' They understand motherhood is a calling and maintain long-term vision despite setbacks, rather than wavering with each disappointment.
“This is exactly why I teach about this journey being preparation. See episode sixteen if you need a refresher.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:20
The fertility journey serves as preparation for motherhood because it teaches you to show up as a mature, responsible adult who can handle challenges. It distinguishes between those ready for the lifelong commitment of parenting versus those who give up when things get difficult.
“I make investments in my future. We live in an abundant universe. My hell yes is determined by how something can support my long term success, not the fucking price tag.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 9:44
Long game thinking includes thoughts like 'I make investments in my future,' 'We live in an abundant universe,' 'What's in my heart is meant for me, and I will fucking do what it takes,' and 'I might be scared shitless right now, but I'm doing it anyway.'
A two-step process to assess and shift into long-game thinking for fertility success
Take an honest assessment
Examine whether you're focused on long-term success or letting shortsighted thoughts and temporary setbacks derail you. Notice if you're entertaining thoughts like 'I'm never gonna be a mom' after one negative test or 'I'm too old' instead of strategic thinking.
Shift to long-game thinking
Replace limiting thoughts with strategic ones like 'I make investments in my future,' 'We live in an abundant universe,' and 'What's in my heart is meant for me, and I will do what it takes.' Focus on how decisions support long-term success rather than immediate comfort.
Women who beat the odds on their fertility journey have their eye on the long game - they are tenacious, committed, and not easily spooked by disappointments or setbacks
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of fertility treatment failure by applying this principle. She invested an embarrassing amount of time feeling sorry for herself before shifting to long-term strategic thinking.
Successful women on the fertility journey aren't doing the hokey pokey with motherhood - they put both feet in and keep them planted there, refusing to leave without their baby
Rosanne emphasizes that women who succeed understand motherhood is a calling they feel in their soul and are willing to commit fully, unlike those who waiver with each setback.
The average couple invests a minimum of sixty thousand dollars in IVF to get a positive result, making it crucial to have your mind and body work together to support that investment
Statistical data shows the significant financial investment in fertility treatment, which Rosanne uses to demonstrate why comprehensive mind-body support is essential rather than optional.
The long game is about making big, bold, strategic plays that will lead to your bottom line success, not short-sighted small time bullshit that makes you feel good temporarily
Rosanne contrasts strategic long-term thinking with reactive emotional decisions, explaining how successful women focus on outcomes rather than immediate emotional comfort.
Motherhood is a lifelong commitment, and lifelong commitments require your long game vision and deep abiding conviction
Rosanne teaches that successful women understand motherhood as part of their purpose on the planet, with something powerful to contribute through becoming a mom.
This fertility journey is preparation for motherhood, requiring you to show up like a grown ass woman ready to handle the responsibility, not like a whiny kid who stops playing when they don't get their way
Referenced from episode 16 about the journey being preparation, Rosanne distinguishes between mature commitment and childish reactions to setbacks.
When you play with a long game in mind, you cover your bases and aren't penny wise and pound foolish with your investments
Rosanne explains that strategic thinking involves comprehensive support rather than cutting corners on important elements that could determine success.
Women who beat the odds on their fertility journey have their eye on the long game - they are tenacious, committed, and not easily spooked by disappointments or setbacks
▶ 4:27Successful women on the fertility journey aren't doing the hokey pokey with motherhood - they put both feet in and keep them planted there, refusing to leave without their baby
▶ 5:19The average couple invests a minimum of sixty thousand dollars in IVF to get a positive result, making it crucial to have your mind and body work together to support that investment
▶ 7:32The long game is about making big, bold, strategic plays that will lead to your bottom line success, not short-sighted small time bullshit that makes you feel good temporarily
▶ 6:40Motherhood is a lifelong commitment, and lifelong commitments require your long game vision and deep abiding conviction
▶ 5:49This fertility journey is preparation for motherhood, requiring you to show up like a grown ass woman ready to handle the responsibility, not like a whiny kid who stops playing when they don't get their way
▶ 6:20When you play with a long game in mind, you cover your bases and aren't penny wise and pound foolish with your investments
▶ 7:21“Fertility setbacks mean you should give up or that success isn't meant for you”
CONSIDER: Temporary setbacks have nothing to do with your long-term success - they're just part of the journey that requires emotional maturity
“Mindset work is too expensive compared to medical treatment”
CONSIDER: With couples investing minimum $60,000 in IVF, comprehensive mind-body support is essential to maximize that investment, not optional
“Quick emotional comfort is more important than strategic action”
CONSIDER: The long game requires making strategic decisions that support bottom-line success, even when they don't feel good immediately
“Women who beat the odds on this journey have their eye on the long game. Put another way, women who succeed on this journey are tenacious, committed, and not easily spooked.”
“For the woman who beats the odds, that song goes, you put your right foot in, you put your left foot in, and it ends there. She keeps her feet firmly planted there. She's all fucking in.”
“You either love your vision enough to play to win or you don't. Is it easy? No. Does it hurt sometimes? Fuck yeah. But what I say to that is, welcome to motherhood.”
“What's in my heart is meant for me, and I will fucking do what it takes. I might be scared shitless right now, but I'm doing it anyway.”
“The long game is about making big, bold, strategic plays that will lead to your bottom line success. The long game is about seeing that this journey is a process, not some amateur hour weekend project.”
“If you don't have a mindset for success on this journey, love, you gotta gaping hole in your strategy.”
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Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
If trying harder were the answer to fertility success, women would already be pregnant - the issue isn't lack of effort but the wrong approach
Women featured on the Fearlessly Fertile podcast who succeeded were told they had less than 1% chances and couldn't get pregnant with their own eggs, yet conceived by shifting away from force-based approaches.
Soft power is about alignment, emotional regulation, clarity, vision, receptivity and influence - not about being passive or giving up
Every woman who appeared on the Fearlessly Fertile podcast exercised soft power by ending the pushing and desperation of force and stepping into influence, clarity, certainty, and faith.
Worthiness issues from earlier relationships directly impact fertility journey outcomes and decision-making patterns.
Liz spent 10 years in an unhealthy relationship telling herself she didn't want kids rather than facing the reality, then ghosted her future husband because she couldn't believe he liked her for who she was. These same worthiness patterns showed up as immediately running to IVF after one miscarriage at 41.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything - relationship patterns will show up in your fertility journey.
Liz's pattern of feeling unworthy in her relationship (ghosting her husband because she couldn't believe he liked her) directly translated to feeling inadequate about conceiving and immediately seeking medical intervention after one miscarriage instead of trusting her body.
