In this 50th episode celebration, Rosanne teaches the foundational question every woman must answer to succeed on her fertility journey: What do you really want? She explains why knowing your complete vision - beyond just having a baby - is essential for strategic decision-making and building a full life rather than just solving problems.
Rosanne celebrates the 50th episode by posing the deceptively simple but crucial question: What do you really want? She emphasizes this isn't just about wanting a baby, but about having clarity on your complete vision for life, family, and success. This foundational clarity separates women who think strategically from those who just react to problems.
Despite its simplicity, most people struggle to answer what they want because they've been focused on what they don't want or have tunnel vision on just one aspect. Rosanne explains how successful women understand they want both their baby AND a full life with happy homes, purposeful parents, and strong relationships.
When you know exactly what you want, decision-making becomes a simple hell yes or hell no process. Every choice gets run through the matrix of whether it brings you closer to your stated desires, transforming reactive problem-solving into strategic life-building and stopping the spinning in confusion and doubt.
Rosanne provides a specific exercise for answering the question thoughtfully, encouraging women to be specific and unapologetic about their desires across all life areas. She emphasizes there's no shame in wanting material things alongside family success, and suggests adding accountability by sharing your vision with others.
“What do you want? What do you really want? Seriously, when was the last time you thought about this carefully?”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 5:17
The most important question is 'What do you really want?' - and you need to think beyond just having a baby to your complete vision for life, family, work, health, and happiness. This clarity enables strategic decision-making.
“when you know exactly what you want, you stop spinning in bullshit because decision making becomes way fucking easier. It's either hell yes or hell no.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 7:31
Know exactly what you want, then run every decision through this matrix: 'Is this going to help me get what I want or not?' This creates a simple hell yes or hell no decision-making process that stops you from spinning in confusion.
“When you bring that mindset to the table with all of the other amazing things you're doing physically to support your fertility, you empower yourself to live this journey with no regret.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:33
Mindset work is foundational to success because it empowers you to live your fertility journey without regret. When combined with physical support for fertility, the right mindset helps you show up as the woman committed to her vision rather than her fear.
“They want to bring these babies into happy homes, which means mom is happy, partner is happy, both parents are living with purpose, their relationship isn't neglected or subordinated to trying to conceive”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 6:09
Successful women want their baby AND a full life - happy homes where both parents live with purpose, their relationship isn't neglected, they model empowerment to children, and they allow themselves to receive and pursue meaningful work.
“People spend way too much time focusing on what they don't want and end up producing exactly that because where our attention goes, our energy flows.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 10:45
Focus your brainpower on what you DO want instead. Where attention goes, energy flows, so people who focus on what they don't want often create exactly that. Make strategic decisions based on what moves you toward your desires.
“my fearlessly fertile method is about you doing you, you trusting you, and you having the fucking guts to believe that what's in your heart is meant for you.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:43
The method honors who you are, not who you think you have to be. It's about unleashing your unique excellence and having the courage to believe what's in your heart is meant for you, rather than pressuring you to be like everyone else.
A strategic exercise to clarify your complete vision beyond just having a baby
Be specific and unapologetic
Precisely and concisely state what you want. Think smarter than just 'a baby' - include the home, neighborhood near good schools, healthy pregnancy with organic food, and your conception preferences.
Examine all life areas
Look at what you want for work, friends, family, health, and lifestyle. Consider how you want to model excellence and a powerful mindset to your future child.
Write it out without shame
Include material desires like a family car and beautiful clothes. There's no limit to the good you can have, so be honest about everything you want.
Create your decision matrix
Run every choice through this question: 'Is what I'm about to do bringing me closer to the things I want?' This transforms decision-making from reactive to strategic.
Add accountability
Email your list to someone or share it publicly. End with 'I'm not sorry about it either. I'm getting mine.' This creates an additional layer of commitment to your vision.
Success on your fertility journey requires knowing exactly what you want from a global perspective, not just tunnel vision on having a baby
Women who succeed on this journey understand they want a baby AND a full life to go along with it - happy homes where both parents are living with purpose, their relationship isn't subordinated to TTC, and they can model empowerment to their children.
When you know exactly what you want, decision making becomes way fucking easier - it's either hell yes or hell no
The equation becomes super simple: Is this going to help me get what I want or not? This stops the spinning in bullshit and creates strategic decision-making rather than just putting fires out in your life.
Most people spend way too much time focusing on what they don't want and end up producing exactly that because where attention goes, energy flows
Instead of focusing that precise and precious brainpower on what you don't want, smart women focus on what they do want and make every move through that matrix of whether it brings them closer to their stated desires.
The fearlessly fertile method honors who you are, not who you think you have to be - it's about unleashing your unique excellence on this journey
Rosanne's method is designed to help women trust themselves and have the fucking guts to believe what's in their heart is meant for them, rather than pressuring them to be like everyone else.
Having the mindset piece is foundational to success - most people blow it off as frou frou feel good bullshit, but women who do the work see why it's instrumental in their results
Rosanne has featured many women on this podcast who have done the mindset work and seen results, and promises to feature loads more this year as proof of its effectiveness.
The fear of living with regret - looking back and seeing you failed to live up to the potential that was there the whole time - drives people to give up inches from the finish line
Rosanne explains that knowing you gave up and chickened out mere inches from the finish line hurts like a motherfucker and is a recipe for a lifetime of misery, which is why haters writhe in monumental self-loathing.
Choosing fearlessness on this journey is for the woman more committed to her vision for her family than her fear
Rosanne emphasizes this path isn't for the faint of heart and requires the woman to prioritize her family vision over fear, which is why mindset work is foundational to success.
When you bring the right mindset to the table with all the other amazing things you're doing physically, you empower yourself to live this journey with no regret
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of fertility treatment failure by combining mindset work with physical support, demonstrating how both pieces work together for success without regret.
Success on your fertility journey requires knowing exactly what you want from a global perspective, not just tunnel vision on having a baby
▶ 5:48When you know exactly what you want, decision making becomes way fucking easier - it's either hell yes or hell no
▶ 7:31Most people spend way too much time focusing on what they don't want and end up producing exactly that because where attention goes, energy flows
▶ 10:45The fearlessly fertile method honors who you are, not who you think you have to be - it's about unleashing your unique excellence on this journey
▶ 2:13Having the mindset piece is foundational to success - most people blow it off as frou frou feel good bullshit, but women who do the work see why it's instrumental in their results
▶ 4:05The fear of living with regret - looking back and seeing you failed to live up to the potential that was there the whole time - drives people to give up inches from the finish line
▶ 3:04Choosing fearlessness on this journey is for the woman more committed to her vision for her family than her fear
▶ 3:55When you bring the right mindset to the table with all the other amazing things you're doing physically, you empower yourself to live this journey with no regret
▶ 2:33“Success on fertility journey means just focusing on getting pregnant”
CONSIDER: Success means wanting a baby AND a full life - happy homes, purposeful parents, strong relationships, and modeling empowerment
“Mindset work is frou frou feel good bullshit”
CONSIDER: Having the mindset piece is foundational to success and instrumental in getting results
“Focus on what you don't want to avoid it”
CONSIDER: Focus your precious brainpower on what you DO want because where attention goes, energy flows
“What do you want? What do you really want? Seriously, when was the last time you thought about this carefully?”
“when you know exactly what you want, you stop spinning in bullshit because decision making becomes way fucking easier. It's either hell yes or hell no.”
“my fearlessly fertile method is about you doing you, you trusting you, and you having the fucking guts to believe that what's in your heart is meant for you.”
“People spend way too much time focusing on what they don't want and end up producing exactly that because where our attention goes, our energy flows.”
“Choosing a path of fearlessness on this journey isn't for the faint of heart. It's for the woman more committed to her vision for her family than her fear.”
“When you bring that mindset to the table with all of the other amazing things you're doing physically to support your fertility, you empower yourself to live this journey with no regret.”
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The smartest thing you can focus on during your fertility journey is love - the love you have for your dream, your family, your future child, and yourself
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of treatment failure by shifting her focus from statistics and fear to love for her future child, which is demonstrated in her opening conversation with her son Asher.
Your desire to be a mom is there because it was meant for you - anything else is a distraction that doesn't matter
Every podcast episode featuring Rosanne's clients shows women who beat crazy odds by focusing on what matters rather than external distractions, proving that past failures and statistics don't determine outcomes.
Women who beat the odds on their fertility journey have their eye on the long game - they are tenacious, committed, and not easily spooked by disappointments or setbacks
Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 after years of fertility treatment failure by applying this principle. She invested an embarrassing amount of time feeling sorry for herself before shifting to long-term strategic thinking.
Successful women on the fertility journey aren't doing the hokey pokey with motherhood - they put both feet in and keep them planted there, refusing to leave without their baby
Rosanne emphasizes that women who succeed understand motherhood is a calling they feel in their soul and are willing to commit fully, unlike those who waiver with each setback.
