Maren shares how she overcame three years of trying to conceive, irregular cycles, low ovarian reserve, grief from losing her mother, and failed IUI treatments to conceive naturally at 41. Through mindset work and learning to let go of control, she transformed from a woman stuck in fear to someone who made it easy for her baby to find her.
MarenAge 41· natural· Baby 2020Before
Stuck in grief, control-obsessed, people-pleasing, disconnected from body, convinced treatments wouldn't work
Key Shift
Learned to let go of control, set boundaries, assemble supportive team, and believe in possibility
After
CEO mindset, empowered decision-maker, connected to body and intuition, open to receive
Maren's journey began with profound loss - her mother's death while struggling with three years of infertility. She demonstrates the advanced self-awareness needed to recognize that unprocessed grief from losing both parents was creating a mind-body disconnect that blocked conception. This recognition became the foundation for her transformation.
When faced with committing to the Fearlessly Fertile Method while her husband was traveling, Maren had to choose between waiting for approval and betting on herself. Her decision to invest in her dreams without permission became a pivotal moment that shifted her from seeking external validation to trusting her own intuition.
Maren's transformation involved releasing obsessive cycle tracking and dietary restrictions while still supporting her body with supplements and healthy choices. She learned the difference between caring for herself from love versus fear, discovering that letting go doesn't mean giving up - it means removing the desperate energy that blocks miracles.
The breakthrough came when Maren stopped seeing herself as a victim of irregular cycles and low ovarian reserve and started operating as the CEO of her fertility journey. She assembled a team of supportive practitioners, set boundaries with others' demands, and made empowered choices that aligned with her vision of having a second child.
Within weeks of completing the program, Maren conceived naturally using the special pregnancy tests blessed by an encouraging store clerk months earlier. At 26 weeks pregnant at the time of recording, her story demonstrates how quickly transformation is possible when you remove blocks and align with your deepest desires.
“My levels were low. I had, like, you know, normal to low ovarian reserve and, like, you can hear that and it can, you know, be detrimental to you, but, really, like, that doesn't mean she would always say it doesn't mean anything. It's just it might be a little bit longer.”
— Maren▶ 50:27
Yes, it's absolutely possible. Maren conceived naturally at 41 despite having low ovarian reserve and irregular cycles that ranged from 28-38 days. The key was addressing the mental and emotional blocks that were preventing her from receiving what she wanted most.
“I had to just be able to sort of, like like, let the control go a bit about those things. I could still implement them in my life, which I was, but not be so, like, so hyper focused on it where it was also be also a block.”
— Maren▶ 26:30
Letting go means releasing obsessive tracking and hyper-focusing while still taking care of yourself. It's about doing things from love rather than fear. You can still support your body with good nutrition and natural supplements, but without the desperate energy that creates blocks.
“I had to learn to let go. I had to take all of the things, all of the pieces, all of the modules, you know, I had to learn how to use all of that to let go because I was holding on to not just the grief, which was blocking me, but the second guessing and the guessing.”
— Maren▶ 25:48
Making it easy for your baby means removing the mental, emotional, and energetic blocks that prevent you from receiving. This includes processing grief, releasing control, setting boundaries, and shifting from fear to trust. When you become energetically aligned with what you want, you create space for it to come to you.
“I kind of always describe it like I just couldn't connect them. I couldn't feel the pain, but yet I was going through the grief... I needed to figure out how to connect those two so I could work through it in a healthy way this time and then hopefully be able to open up a little bit more to be able to welcome another soul into our lives.”
— Maren▶ 7:11
Unprocessed grief creates a disconnect between mind and body that blocks your ability to receive. When you're holding onto pain without feeling it, you create energetic blocks that prevent new life from coming in. Processing grief allows you to open up and welcome another soul.
“I always like other people's opinions. I mean, I I ultimately make my own decision, but I do. I tend to ask friends or my right hand at work or, you know, whatever it is. And I just had to make that decision in that second.”
— Maren▶ 10:06
No, you need to be willing to make decisions for yourself and your dreams. When something feels right and aligned with what you want most, trust that instinct and take action. Your partner will likely support you when they see how much it means to you.
“I think I knew that too when we were doing, IUI. I think I knew that. I was like, I'm doing this, but I know this isn't gonna work. Like, I was telling myself this isn't gonna work.”
— Maren▶ 8:23
Yes, mindset work addresses the underlying beliefs and blocks that can sabotage treatments. When you go into treatments believing they won't work, you create a self-fulfilling prophecy. Shifting your mindset allows treatments to be more effective or helps you conceive naturally.
Maren's step-by-step process for removing blocks and creating space for conception
Recognize Your Blocks
Identify what's disconnecting your mind and body - grief, control, fear patterns, or unprocessed emotions that are preventing you from receiving what you want.
Make Empowered Decisions
Stop waiting for permission and make decisions from your heart about what you need, even if others don't understand initially.
Set Boundaries
Learn to be selfish with your time and energy. Say no to obligations that drain you and yes to what supports your dreams.
Assemble Your Team
Surround yourself with people who believe in you without bullshitting you - healthcare providers, coaches, and supporters who see your potential.
Release Control
Let go of obsessive tracking and hyper-focusing while still taking care of your body. Do things from love, not fear.
Process and Heal
Work through grief, trauma, and emotional blocks that create disconnection. Allow yourself to feel and heal.
Shift Your Identity
See yourself as powerful, worthy, and capable of receiving. Become the CEO of your fertility journey rather than a victim of circumstances.
You cannot outperform your self-image - you must see yourself as powerful enough to receive what you want
Maren had to transform from seeing herself as a victim of irregular cycles and low ovarian reserve to seeing herself as a CEO who assembled a team and made empowered decisions. She conceived naturally at 41 within weeks of this identity shift.
Making a decision is a line of demarcation - you either want to change or you don't, and nobody can strong-arm you into that
Maren was terrified to commit to the program when her husband was out of town, but made the decision alone. This moment of taking responsibility for her own transformation led to conceiving naturally at 41 after three years of trying.
Grief and unprocessed emotions create blocks that prevent you from receiving what you want most
Maren recognized that losing her mother and not processing her father's death 15 years earlier created a disconnect between mind and body. She described feeling unable to connect the pain with the grief, which blocked her ability to welcome another soul.
You must learn to be selfish and set boundaries to make space for what matters most
Maren, a people-pleaser who always rearranged her schedule for others, had to stop taking her daughter to Saturday dance and let others handle it so she could prioritize the program. This boundary-setting was essential to her transformation and conception.
Letting go doesn't mean you don't care - it means releasing the obsessive control that blocks your miracle
Maren had to release obsessive tracking of irregular cycles (ranging from 28-38 days), stop hyper-focusing on gluten-free and dairy-free diets, and quit telling herself 'this isn't going to work' during IUI treatments. This letting go led to natural conception.
Arbitrary timelines you set become blocks when you make them non-negotiable
Maren had told herself she wouldn't have a baby at 40, which became a self-fulfilling prophecy. She had to reconcile being 'off by a few days' and accept having her baby at 41 instead of her arbitrary deadline.
When you really want something, you put your mind to it - but you have to actually believe it's possible
Maren had to shift from going into treatments thinking 'I know this isn't going to work' to genuinely believing it would happen. She conceived naturally at 41 after this belief shift, despite low ovarian reserve and irregular cycles.
Age and test results are just information, not verdicts - it might take longer but there will be a good one
Despite being 41 with low ovarian reserve and irregular cycles, Maren's doctor told her 'it just takes one good one' and 'that doesn't mean anything, it might just be a little bit longer.' Maren conceived naturally after embracing this perspective.
You need people on your team who believe in you without bullshitting you
Maren specifically chose healthcare providers who were honest about her age and low ovarian reserve but still supportive of her goals. Her doctor would say 'you're not getting younger' but also 'it doesn't mean anything, you just keep going.'
Personal awareness to recognize blocks is advanced work that most people never do
Rosanne praised Maren for having the personal awareness to recognize that grief from losing her mother and unprocessed trauma from her father's death were creating blocks to conception, calling this 'massive' and 'advanced shit.'
You cannot outperform your self-image - you must see yourself as powerful enough to receive what you want
▶ 48:01Making a decision is a line of demarcation - you either want to change or you don't, and nobody can strong-arm you into that
▶ 10:47Grief and unprocessed emotions create blocks that prevent you from receiving what you want most
▶ 7:11You must learn to be selfish and set boundaries to make space for what matters most
▶ 19:39Letting go doesn't mean you don't care - it means releasing the obsessive control that blocks your miracle
▶ 25:48Arbitrary timelines you set become blocks when you make them non-negotiable
▶ 32:45When you really want something, you put your mind to it - but you have to actually believe it's possible
▶ 50:11Age and test results are just information, not verdicts - it might take longer but there will be a good one
▶ 50:27You need people on your team who believe in you without bullshitting you
▶ 50:27Personal awareness to recognize blocks is advanced work that most people never do
▶ 8:02“You need perfect cycles and optimal test results to conceive naturally in your 40s”
CONSIDER: Irregular cycles and low ovarian reserve don't prevent natural conception when you remove mental blocks
“You should track everything obsessively to maximize your chances”
CONSIDER: Obsessive tracking from fear energy creates blocks - you need to let go while still taking care of yourself
“You need your partner's permission before investing in fertility support”
CONSIDER: You must be willing to make decisions for yourself and your dreams without waiting for approval
“You either wanna change or you don't. Quit spinning. Just fucking do it.”
“I made it easy for my baby to find me.”
“You cannot outperform your self-image.”
“When you really want something, you put your mind to it. It is no bullshit. But if you don't believe it, it's not gonna happen.”
“I had to learn to let go. I had to take all of the pieces and learn how to use all of that to let go because I was holding on to not just the grief, but the second guessing.”
“It just takes one. You just need one good one. You might not get it the first time you try. It might take you seven years, but there is gonna be a good one.”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Women can become more fertile in their late thirties than they were in their early thirties when they align their mind and body for fertility success
Kristen was told at 34 she had low AMH and needed IVF immediately, but conceived naturally at 38 after mindset work
Getting out of your familiar environment and immersing yourself fully in transformation work creates breakthrough moments
Kristen's turning point came when she flew to Houston for Rosanne's in-person intensive in May 2023, conceiving in November 2023
The pain and struggle of your fertility journey disappears once you have your baby in your arms - nothing else matters
Trish, who struggled for years before conceiving her daughter Geordie and is now pregnant again, shares that the relief and magnitude of love outweighs all the grief, sadness and disappointment from the journey.
You are the absolute boss and decision maker of your fertility journey - not the doctors
Diana applied this mindset shift to conceive her son and now has two daughters, ages 2 and 2 months. She uses these same techniques for career decisions and all life choices.
