Mindset Matters On Your #fertility Journey w/Rosanne Austin and Chris Axelrad #ttc #ivf
Rosanne Austin and fertility nutrition expert Chris Axelrad discuss how mind and body work together on the fertility journey, addressing mindset shifts, nutrition strategies, and taking responsibility for your success.
Teachings 4
When you take 100% responsibility for what happens in your life, it can crush you initially, but it crushes you into little pieces so you can stop trying to carry pain and weight that isn't yours
Chris's experience of patients learning to 'be tiny and just breathe' and focus on 'what can I do right now?' rather than carrying the crushing weight of everything
Your thoughts create real physiological changes - if you're flooding your body with cortisol from negative thought patterns, that's having a measurable impact on your fertility
Chris's analogy of being hooked up to biological monitoring while watching a horror movie versus a love story shows how thoughts create real biochemical responses even when the stimulus isn't real
Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence - just because you can't see a result immediately doesn't mean that result isn't coming
Quote from Price Pritchett that Rosanne uses to help women stay in the game even when results aren't immediately visible
Your body is like a master musician who knows exactly what to play, but micromanaging and trying to fix what isn't broken prevents the beautiful music from being expressed
Chris's analogy of the body as a master pianist that gets disrupted when you try to control every note instead of providing support and getting out of the way
Perspectives 2
The common denominator in all fertility struggles is you - not as blame, but as empowerment to see what patterns of thoughts and beliefs are causing you to make choices that create your current results
Rosanne realized after sparing no expense on treatment teams and going to Chinatown for black chickens that the one constant was herself, leading to her asking 'Am I the reason I'm not getting pregnant?' - which became the title of her book
Statistics about your fertility chances are completely made up and don't account for your individual will, desire, and mindset shifts
Rosanne was told her chances of getting pregnant naturally at 43 were infinitesimally small, yet she conceived naturally after her mindset shift
Quotable Moments 4
“The idea that I would have really any role aside from taking a pill or getting a treatment in my own healing and my own success was actually foreign to me.”
— Rosanne Austin“What's the common theme here? Like, what is the common denominator in all of this? It's me.”
— Rosanne Austin“Take control of the movie in your mind because that is just as unreal as the movie that you're seeing that I put you in that room with. And it but it does have just as real of a consequence on your biology.”
— Rosanne Austin“That desire in your heart to be a mom is valid. It's real. It's there because at some level, it's meant for you.”
— Rosanne Austin
Questions This Video Answers
How do thoughts actually affect fertility physically?
“If you're flooding your body with cortisol, how's that working out for you?”
— Rosanne Austin
Your thoughts create real biochemical changes in your body. When you're ruminating on negative thoughts like 'this is never gonna happen for me,' you feel the change in your body because you're flooding it with cortisol and stress hormones, which can interfere with hormonal communication needed for fertility.
What should I do when I realize I might be the reason I'm not getting pregnant?
“What are the patterns of thoughts and beliefs that are causing me to make the choices, do the behaviors, and then get the result that I was literally creating?”
— Rosanne Austin
First, understand this isn't about blame or your worth as a person. Ask yourself 'What am I not seeing?' and look for patterns of thoughts and beliefs that are causing you to make certain choices and get certain results. Focus on what you can control and take responsibility for your part in the equation.
How can I stop negative thought patterns from affecting my fertility?
“Our mind is the one thing we can control. It's the decision to eat the meat first. It's the decision to go get some education. The decision to say, I'm not gonna buy into that statistic.”
— Rosanne Austin
Learn to use the physical sensation of negative emotions as your signal to reframe your story. When you feel that stress response in your body, pause and consciously choose a different thought or focus on your affirmations. It's about gaining awareness and making a decision to be in charge of your mind.
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Key Points 6
The common denominator in all fertility struggles is you - not as blame, but as empowerment to see what patterns of thoughts and beliefs are causing you to make choices that create your current results
When you take 100% responsibility for what happens in your life, it can crush you initially, but it crushes you into little pieces so you can stop trying to carry pain and weight that isn't yours
Your thoughts create real physiological changes - if you're flooding your body with cortisol from negative thought patterns, that's having a measurable impact on your fertility
Statistics about your fertility chances are completely made up and don't account for your individual will, desire, and mindset shifts
Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence - just because you can't see a result immediately doesn't mean that result isn't coming
Your body is like a master musician who knows exactly what to play, but micromanaging and trying to fix what isn't broken prevents the beautiful music from being expressed
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