What To Do When "Nothing" Is Working #ttc #fertility #fertilitymindset #ivf #fertilitytreatment
Rosanne Austin and Chris Axelrod provide a 3-step framework for when fertility treatments aren't working: get clear on what you're doing, identify what stays vs. goes, and ask what would feel amazing now.
Teachings 8
When treatments aren't working, make a complete list of everything you're doing to combat fear with information and get clarity
Rosanne shares her own experience of doing 'insane things' like only eating pineapple cores during IVF cycles, turning trying to conceive into a second full-time job
Ask yourself 'what stays and what goes' from an empowered place - keep what feels amazing, release what feels like a job
This process helps you consistently up your game and adapt as you move further down the journey, just like studying different things as a mindset coach over time
Make a list of things you tell yourself you 'can't do' because we are our own worst enemy and far more restrictive than anyone else
Rosanne has seen women with repeated IVF failures go on to get pregnant naturally after telling themselves for so long that natural conception wasn't possible for them
Ask 'what would feel amazing now' and trust your instinct - your body and heart are constantly speaking to you
This question allows connection to higher power (GUS - God, Universe, Source) and may reveal needs like taking a break, trying natural cycles, or pursuing new treatments
Success comes from doing less, not more - it's always a 'less is more' equation for 99% of people
Chris Axelrod explains that conception is something nature does billions of times every year - it's miraculous yet ordinary and basic, not the extraordinary hard thing people think it is
Create space in your life for your child now - if your life is constantly 'what am I going to do next' with no pause, where is there space for a child
Chris shares example of patient in 2007-2008 whose life was so full with no millimeter of space, leading him to ask 'here's a baby, what are you gonna do with it? When will you feed it?'
The most powerful fertility medicine is loving kindness and joy - people are 'vitamin J deficient'
Rosanne conceived after living her biggest life, saying yes to things, taking an amazing European trip to Paris and Tuscany, and refusing to live in misery
You know you're on the right track when you're not feeling overwhelmed, not exhausted at day's end, and wake up excited for another day on the journey to your baby
Chris explains overwhelm has one cause - thinking too much - and can be resolved by calming the mind and going one step at a time
Quotable Moments 5
“everything starts up here everything starts as a thought so when you get your your mind right about how you want to be on this journey how you're going to approach challenges you really position yourself for creating success”
— Rosanne Austin“we are our own worst enemy when it comes to success nobody is telling us we can't do something it's typically us that are that are far more restrictive of what's possible than anybody else”
— Rosanne Austin“you only get overwhelmed when you're scared about whether or not you can address what what's coming into your life”
— Rosanne Austin“the most powerful fertility medicine there is is is kind loving kindness and joy vitamin j deficient”
— Chris Axelrod“when you decide up here that this is a non-negotiable you'll figure it out”
— Rosanne Austin
Questions This Video Answers
What should I do when nothing is working on my fertility journey
“make a list what are the things that you're doing... what stays and what goes because you when you're clear about all of the things that you're doing you give yourself an opportunity to have perspective”
— Rosanne Austin
Use Rosanne Austin's 3-step process: 1) Make a complete list of everything you're doing to get clarity, 2) Ask what stays and what goes from an empowered place, 3) Ask what would feel amazing right now and trust your instinct.
Why do I feel overwhelmed on my fertility journey
“if you're overwhelmed the root cause is simply this you are thinking too much the end because there is no way to be overwhelmed when your mind is not in that rev mode”
— Chris Axelrod
According to Chris Axelrod, overwhelm has one root cause - thinking too much. When you feel overwhelmed, use it as a cue that you need to calm your mind and slow down your thoughts.
How do I create space for my baby while trying to conceive
“you have to start thinking today about your life as a mother and living living with that kind of space start creating the space for your child now in your life”
— Chris Axelrod
Start living as a woman who expects to have a child by creating boundaries with work and private life, carving out time for rest and pause, and asking yourself where there would be space for a child in your current packed schedule.
What did you do when you got pregnant naturally at 43
“in the months and actually in the entire like in the lead-up to us conceiving asher i had never lived a bigger life my husband and i were we had we're having so much fun we were saying so many yeses”
— Rosanne Austin
Rosanne Austin was living her biggest life - saying yes to experiences, taking amazing trips, working on her mindset, focusing on possibilities rather than problems, and creating space by setting boundaries with work and relationships.
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Key Points 8
When treatments aren't working, make a complete list of everything you're doing to combat fear with information and get clarity
Ask yourself 'what stays and what goes' from an empowered place - keep what feels amazing, release what feels like a job
Make a list of things you tell yourself you 'can't do' because we are our own worst enemy and far more restrictive than anyone else
Ask 'what would feel amazing now' and trust your instinct - your body and heart are constantly speaking to you
Success comes from doing less, not more - it's always a 'less is more' equation for 99% of people
Create space in your life for your child now - if your life is constantly 'what am I going to do next' with no pause, where is there space for a child
The most powerful fertility medicine is loving kindness and joy - people are 'vitamin J deficient'
You know you're on the right track when you're not feeling overwhelmed, not exhausted at day's end, and wake up excited for another day on the journey to your baby
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