Ms. Dreamy (Guavini) shares her journey from past motherhood trauma to conceiving baby Evan at 32 weeks pregnant using donor eggs after tubal ligation reversal. After 13 years of therapy and finding love with Mister Dreamy, she faced her broken heart, traveled internationally for treatments, and overcame 7 failed transfer cycles.
Ms. Dreamy (Guavini)· donor· Baby boyBefore
Carrying guilt and trauma from past motherhood experience, fearful of bringing baby into broken heart
Key Shift
Chose to heal her heart, accept help, and be open to however baby Evan wanted to arrive
After
32 weeks pregnant with baby Evan, at peace with donor egg journey, fully embodying motherhood identity
Ms. Dreamy's story begins with the profound truth that we all deserve do-overs in life. After tubal ligation at 26 following traumatic motherhood experiences, she found love again with Mister Dreamy, who helped heal part of her wound by affirming she would be a wonderful mother. Her journey demonstrates that past trauma doesn't define your fertility future.
The most powerful aspect of Ms. Dreamy's transformation was recognizing she couldn't 'bring new wine into old wine skin' - meaning she had to heal her broken heart before bringing baby Evan into the world. Through 13 years of therapy and fertility coaching, she addressed guilt about her past children and fear of motherhood before conception was possible.
Initially resistant to donor eggs, Ms. Dreamy experienced a profound shift when she realized babies choose how they arrive, not how we think they should. After accepting that her baby was calling her regardless of the genetic source, she embraced donor egg IVF as the path to baby Evan.
When six donor eggs yielded only one viable embryo and seven transfer cycles failed for various reasons, Ms. Dreamy embodied Rosanne's teaching that 'it only takes one.' Her unwavering commitment to baby Evan, combined with previous stem cell therapy that unknowingly prepared her body, finally resulted in the successful pregnancy at 32 weeks.
“I had a tubal ligation when I was twenty six. So I was thinking I was done being a mom... But when I met my husband, something gave me like that, allow me to dream of the possibility of being a mom.”
— Ms. Dreamy▶ 9:16
Yes, through tubal ligation reversal surgery or IVF. Ms. Dreamy had her tubes tied at 26, got reversal surgery, and when that didn't work, used donor egg IVF to conceive baby Evan.
“You can't bring something new and put, like, the Bible says, you can't bring new wine into old wine skin. Like, it's impossible. It cannot be done.”
— Ms. Dreamy▶ 14:08
Address the emotional wounds first before trying to conceive. Ms. Dreamy said you can't bring new wine into old wine skin - you can't bring a baby into a broken heart without healing first.
“It's my kid. I'm carrying my child. This is my blood. He's carrying my own cells. And at the end, my child is calling me.”
— Ms. Dreamy▶ 18:36
When you want to be a mother more than you want your ego, yes. Ms. Dreamy initially resisted donor eggs but realized her baby was calling her and chose motherhood over how she thought conception should happen.
“I remember one of your lessons said, it only takes one. I was like, alright. It only takes one.”
— Ms. Dreamy▶ 31:30
Remember it only takes one. Ms. Dreamy was left with one embryo after six donor eggs yielded only one viable option, but that single embryo became baby Evan despite seven failed transfer attempts.
“My kid needs me. My kid is here already. Your kid is somewhere. You just need to jump the hoops and do it and just go for it because you'll do it when physically your child is here.”
— Ms. Dreamy▶ 40:48
Focus on your baby calling you, not the obstacles. Ms. Dreamy went through 7 failed transfer cycles but kept the mindset that her child needed her and she would do whatever it took.
“I didn't saw that at that moment... that stem cells that helped me to maintain that you know, to to have that new cervix... when it came to the IVF, the actual transfer, it helped.”
— Ms. Dreamy▶ 34:57
Yes, treatments that don't lead to immediate pregnancy can set the foundation for future success. Ms. Dreamy's stem cell therapy didn't result in natural conception but helped her body respond perfectly to IVF.
Ms. Dreamy's process for healing past trauma and creating space for new dreams
Face your broken heart
Acknowledge what needs healing and get professional help - you can't bring a baby into unhealed trauma
Accept all forms of help
Be willing to receive support from fertility coaches, international treatments, donor programs, and your partner
Embody motherhood now
Call yourself a mom and act with the fierce protection you'd have if your child was already here
Choose your baby over your ego
Release attachment to how conception should happen and trust however your baby chooses to arrive
We all deserve a do-over in life, regardless of past choices or trauma
Ms. Dreamy had tubal ligation at 26 after traumatic motherhood experiences, went through 13 years of therapy, and at 32 weeks pregnant proves that past decisions don't define your fertility future.
You can't bring new wine into old wine skin - you must heal your heart before bringing a baby into a broken space
Ms. Dreamy recognized she had to address her past trauma and guilt about previous children before conceiving baby Evan, saying she couldn't bring her dream baby into a dysfunctional broken heart.
It only takes one embryo to create your miracle
Ms. Dreamy was left with only one embryo after 6 donor eggs yielded 4, then 3, then just 1 viable embryo. Despite 7 failed transfer cycles, that single embryo became baby Evan at 32 weeks.
Babies come in different ways - they decide to show up the way they decide to show up, not the way you think they should
Ms. Dreamy initially insisted on using her own eggs but had to accept donor eggs. After letting go of how she thought her baby should arrive, she conceived baby Evan through donor egg IVF.
Call yourself a mom now - if your baby was here and needed something, you'd move heaven and earth to get it
Ms. Dreamy traveled to Mexico during COVID for stem cell therapy and tubal reversal, saying she was 'in search of my baby' and would do whatever it took because her child was calling her.
You cannot limit yourself to one country or one approach when bringing your baby home
Ms. Dreamy traveled to Mexico for stem cell therapy and tubal reversal, researched treatments in Israel and Japan, and refused to limit herself geographically in pursuing her baby.
Past treatments that seem to fail may be setting you up for future success in ways you can't see
Ms. Dreamy's stem cell therapy didn't result in natural conception as hoped, but it rejuvenated her cervix and ovaries, helping her body respond well to IVF hormones and creating the perfect environment for embryo transfer.
We are the only ones that limit ourselves - we put ourselves in that box
Ms. Dreamy overcame the limitation of tubal ligation by getting reversal surgery, then donor eggs, then international treatments, proving that self-imposed limitations are the biggest barrier to success.
Choose your baby over all the obstacles - that's the only choice that matters
Ms. Dreamy chose baby Evan over her ego about using donor eggs, over geographical limitations by traveling internationally, and over 7 failed transfer cycles by persisting until success.
We all deserve a do-over in life, regardless of past choices or trauma
▶ 3:35You can't bring new wine into old wine skin - you must heal your heart before bringing a baby into a broken space
▶ 14:08It only takes one embryo to create your miracle
▶ 31:30Babies come in different ways - they decide to show up the way they decide to show up, not the way you think they should
▶ 19:07Call yourself a mom now - if your baby was here and needed something, you'd move heaven and earth to get it
▶ 40:27You cannot limit yourself to one country or one approach when bringing your baby home
▶ 37:00Past treatments that seem to fail may be setting you up for future success in ways you can't see
▶ 34:57We are the only ones that limit ourselves - we put ourselves in that box
▶ 38:03Choose your baby over all the obstacles - that's the only choice that matters
▶ 41:50“Past mistakes or trauma disqualify you from future motherhood”
CONSIDER: Everyone deserves a do-over and past experiences can become your greatest strength
“You need your own eggs to be a real mother”
CONSIDER: Babies choose how they come to you - your job is to be open to receiving the gift
“Failed treatments are wasted time and money”
CONSIDER: Every step pushes you closer to your baby, even when you can't see how
“You can't bring new wine into old wine skin. You can't bring something new and put a baby into a very dysfunctional broken heart.”
“It only takes one. And it clearly did.”
“We are the only ones that limit ourselves. We're the only ones that put us in that box.”
“My kid needs me. My kid is here already. You just need to jump the hoops and do it because you'll do it when physically your child is here.”
“I hope that you choose your baby over all the obstacles. That's it.”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
Statistics are not your destiny - you can choose to be an outlier rather than a statistic
Erika overcame stage 4 endometriosis, multiple failed IVF cycles, and a 0% chance of natural conception to conceive naturally at 31 after 9 years of trying.
Fertility challenges transcend age - you can have the diagnosis of someone in their fifties while in your twenties
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Your story only ends when you quit, not when treatments fail
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Trust your intuition even when it conflicts with your external circumstances
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