Melissa's powerful journey from being told IVF was the only way to conceiving naturally at 39 after 5 years of fertility challenges. After enduring low AMH, 5 IVF cycles, 4 miscarriages, surgeries, and hitting rock bottom, she transformed her mindset and trusted her body's natural ability to conceive.
MelissaAge 39· natural· Baby girlBefore
At the lowest point of her life with dark thoughts, feeling lost all sense of purpose, in a downward emotional spiral after ectopic pregnancy
Key Shift
Stopped struggling, trusted her body's natural fertility, made conscious decision to become a mom, cleared blocks around worthiness and receiving
After
Became the happiest she'd ever been, felt empowered in all decisions, equipped with tools to navigate challenges including postpartum depression
Melissa's journey began with low AMH at 33, followed by an ectopic pregnancy that nearly cost her life. This trauma shifted her from high vibration to complete pessimism, setting the stage for five years of struggle including multiple IVF cycles, miscarriages, and surgeries. Despite the repeated setbacks, she held onto the deep knowing that motherhood was meant for her.
After working with Rosanne, Melissa had a powerful realization: four of her five pregnancies had been natural, yet she continued pursuing IVF because she'd been told it was her only option. This insight led her to trust her body's innate ability to conceive and make the courageous decision to walk away from medical intervention at age 39.
Melissa's transformation included releasing the belief that struggle equaled worthiness and learning to receive. She reached a state of genuine happiness independent of pregnancy, telling her husband she'd never been happier in her life. This empowered surrender created the perfect environment for her baby to arrive naturally just months later.
Now with her 17-month-old daughter, Melissa reflects that becoming a mother feels natural because she'd always been one in her heart. The tools she learned during her fertility journey equipped her to navigate postpartum challenges, proving that the struggle truly was preparation for the woman and mother she was meant to become.
“I'm actually fertile as f***. You know? I'm gonna have my baby naturally. And then only two months after us finishing our mentorship sessions, I got pregnant naturally at thirty nine years old.”
— Melissa▶ 19:54
Yes, absolutely. Some women's bodies don't respond well to IVF drugs but can conceive naturally. The key is recognizing if you're getting pregnant naturally during your fertility journey, that's evidence your body knows how to conceive without medical intervention.
“Throughout this five years, I knew this. I just I just wasn't hearing it. And think about the courage it takes to be able to walk away from all of that craziness and trust yourself.”
— Melissa▶ 22:14
Trust your intuition and look at the evidence. If you've had natural pregnancies but IVF isn't working, your body might be telling you something. Pay attention to how your body responds to treatment versus how it performs naturally.
“It's a very different thing to kind of have this cons this concept of, yeah, I'm gonna be a mom one day and feel comfortable in that, but not actually having made a conscious decision.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 16:39
Wanting is passive, deciding is active. Making a conscious decision means you're in 'go mode' today, actively clearing blocks and taking action, rather than having some distant idea that you'll be a mom someday.
“All these big statistics that I wasn't a part of the testing pool, but then here I am. Yes. I did miscarriages, but all four four of the like, five, including the ectopic pregnancy, was natural.”
— Melissa▶ 19:24
Not necessarily. Low AMH is just one marker, and your body's actual performance matters more than test results. Many women with low AMH conceive naturally when they trust their body's ability rather than focusing solely on statistics.
“It was because the very first time in five years, I felt heard and understood and not lonely because that's one of the biggest things with with this journey. It's such an isolating experience.”
— Melissa▶ 31:25
Find community with women who truly understand your experience. Professional support and group settings with other high-achieving women facing similar challenges can provide the understanding and validation needed to heal.
“I don't even mind at this point if you don't have a if you don't have a baby. I think it's meant for us. I think it's eventually will come to us, but, like, we are at a stage where we are happy just for being alive.”
— Melissa▶ 26:22
Empowered surrender means finding peace and joy in your current life while still believing your baby will come. It's not giving up on your dream, but releasing the struggle and anxiety around when and how it will happen.
“I thought I wouldn't be worthy enough receiving this amazing thing that I wanted unless I went through a struggle. I was creating some of the hardship for myself.”
— Melissa▶ 27:40
Often it's not a fertility problem but a mindset and lifestyle problem. Stress, struggle mindset, self-sabotage, and not trusting your body can all interfere with natural conception even when you're biologically capable.
Steps to transition from medical intervention to trusting your body's natural conception ability
Assess your fertility history objectively
Look at the evidence - are you getting pregnant naturally but IVF isn't working? This suggests your body knows how to conceive without medical intervention.
Clear limiting beliefs about worthiness
Examine whether you believe you must struggle to deserve your baby. Work to release the belief that difficulty equals worthiness.
Make empowering lifestyle changes
Take actions that support your fertility from abundance rather than fear - change to less stressful work, optimize nutrition, invest in your growth.
Trust your intuition over statistics
Remember that medical statistics may not include your specific demographic or situation. Your body's performance matters more than test results.
Find your joy independent of pregnancy
Cultivate genuine happiness in your current life while maintaining faith your baby will come. This creates the optimal environment for conception.
Natural pregnancies during IVF failures are evidence your body knows how to conceive naturally
Melissa had 4 out of 5 pregnancies naturally (despite low AMH diagnosis) but continued IVF because she was told that was the only way. She realized 'I'm actually fertile as f***' and conceived naturally at 39 just 2 months after stopping IVF.
You must make a conscious decision to become a mom, not just have a preference
Melissa distinguished between having a general idea of becoming a mom someday versus making the conscious decision to actively pursue motherhood. This shift from preference to decision catalyzed her success after 5 years of struggle.
Struggle is not a prerequisite for receiving what you want
Melissa realized she believed she had to struggle to be worthy of motherhood based on her childhood conditioning. After working through this block, she found joy and became 'the happiest I've ever been' before conceiving naturally.
When you change your mindset, you change your beliefs, actions, and results
Melissa changed jobs to less stressful work, hired a nutritionist, invested in coaching, went to bed early, and made decisions from abundance rather than scarcity. These actions led to natural conception at 39 after years of IVF failure.
Isolation and lack of understanding compound fertility journey trauma
Melissa described 5 years of withdrawing from friendships and removing herself from social situations. Her first group coaching call was 'cathartic' because it was 'the very first time in five years I felt heard and understood and not lonely.'
The fertility journey is preparation for motherhood, not punishment
Melissa stated 'if I hadn't gone through this five years, I wouldn't have become the mom that my daughter actually deserves.' She used the tools learned during fertility struggles to navigate postpartum depression and anxiety successfully.
Resistance often signals you're on the right path
Melissa learned that 'when you're feel the resistance the most is when you know all your saboteurs are fighting their hardest to reroute you from the right path.' This helped her push through difficult moments and make empowering decisions.
You can feel joy and peace while still wanting your baby
Melissa reached a point where she told her husband 'I have never been this happy in my entire life' with no baby in sight. She said 'I don't even mind if we don't have a baby' while still believing it would come. She conceived one month later.
Medical statistics may not include your demographic or situation
Melissa realized 'all these big statistics that I wasn't a part of the testing pool' yet she kept getting pregnant naturally despite being told IVF was her only option due to low AMH at age 34.
Just make the fucking decision and stop making excuses
Melissa continues to use this principle in all areas of life, even asking herself 'what would Rosanne do? She would tell me to just make the fucking decision' when facing personal challenges as a new mother.
Natural pregnancies during IVF failures are evidence your body knows how to conceive naturally
▶ 19:54You must make a conscious decision to become a mom, not just have a preference
▶ 16:39Struggle is not a prerequisite for receiving what you want
▶ 23:37When you change your mindset, you change your beliefs, actions, and results
▶ 24:31Isolation and lack of understanding compound fertility journey trauma
▶ 31:25The fertility journey is preparation for motherhood, not punishment
▶ 28:48Resistance often signals you're on the right path
▶ 37:39You can feel joy and peace while still wanting your baby
▶ 25:22Medical statistics may not include your demographic or situation
▶ 19:24Just make the fucking decision and stop making excuses
▶ 35:15“If IVF isn't working, you need more aggressive treatment or you're out of options”
CONSIDER: If your body gets pregnant naturally but IVF fails, your body may not be designed to respond to artificial hormones
“You need to think carefully before investing in fertility coaching or support”
CONSIDER: When you want something, you make the decision quickly and take action
“Low AMH and advanced age mean natural conception is nearly impossible”
CONSIDER: Your body's actual performance matters more than test results and statistics
“I'm actually fertile as f***. I'm gonna have my baby naturally.”
“Just make the fucking decision. Stop making excuses. Just make the decision.”
“The desire in your heart to be a mom is there because it's meant for you.”
“I have never been this happy in my entire life. And there was no sight of the baby.”
“I've always been a mom in my heart. I just didn't have my baby. And now I have my baby.”
“If I hadn't gone through this five years, I wouldn't have become the mom that my daughter actually deserves.”
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Frameworks & Methods
The pain and struggle of your fertility journey disappears once you have your baby in your arms - nothing else matters
Trish, who struggled for years before conceiving her daughter Geordie and is now pregnant again, shares that the relief and magnitude of love outweighs all the grief, sadness and disappointment from the journey.
You are the absolute boss and decision maker of your fertility journey - not the doctors
Diana applied this mindset shift to conceive her son and now has two daughters, ages 2 and 2 months. She uses these same techniques for career decisions and all life choices.
Past treatment failures don't predict future success - your history is not your destiny
Dr. Kathy had AMH of 0.23, failed IUIs, miscarriage, and failed IVF that produced only one egg, yet conceived naturally at 37 and is now 34 weeks pregnant with her son.
High-achieving women are especially susceptible to the seduction of statistics and can get trapped in their analytical minds
Dr. Kathy, both a physician and lawyer, went down the 'rabbit hole' of AMH research and statistics, initially trusting science more than her body despite doctors having more faith in her than she had in herself.
