Diana, a Belgian powerhouse, refused to wait for the perfect partner or government permission to have her baby. After four failed IVF cycles, she transformed her entire life - leaving Qatar, ending an unhealthy relationship, and advocating fiercely for herself - conceiving naturally at 40 with her son Matthew.
DianaAge 40· IVF· Baby boyBefore
Living in Qatar in an unhealthy relationship, accepting medical authority without question, putting life on hold for treatments
Key Shift
Left Qatar, ended toxic relationship, moved to Belgium, became fierce medical advocate, lived life fully during treatment
After
Living in Belgian countryside village with baby Matthew, owning her dream home across from parents, working dream remote job
Diana's journey began in Qatar where she had to keep her fertility treatments completely secret due to cultural restrictions. After multiple failed cycles and the stress of hiding her truth, she realized that major life changes were necessary to align with her baby dreams.
Diana transformed from someone who accepted medical authority without question to a fierce advocate who fought for progesterone injections, demanded genetic testing access, and insisted on transferring all her embryos. Her advocacy became key to her success.
During her successful cycle, Diana traveled extensively across Europe for work and pleasure, walked 20 kilometers daily in Rome, and attended concerts. She embodied the principle of letting life lead and treatment follow, rather than putting everything on hold.
Through forgiveness work and letting go of past treatment 'failures,' Diana created space for her miracle. Her baby boy Matthew, meaning 'gift of God,' was born into the exact life Diana had envisioned - countryside home across from her parents with the rocking chair she'd dreamed of.
“Diana refused to wait around for the perfect prince charming or arbitrary permission from some fucking government alleged authority to decide for her whether or not she was having her baby.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 1:33
Yes, Diana conceived naturally at 40 after 4 failed IVF cycles by transforming her life circumstances and mindset. She left Qatar, ended an unhealthy relationship, and moved to Belgium, conceiving within 4 months of these major changes.
“No. I want the injection now. I want one tonight and I want one tomorrow morning before the transfer because there's no way you know, I have low progesterone, I need it.”
— Diana▶ 20:54
Fight for what you need even when doctors say no. Diana demanded progesterone injections the night before transfer, insisted on transferring all 3 embryos instead of discarding one, and fought for genetic testing when initially denied. Don't accept limitations that don't serve you.
“This is life, and treatment tags along. And this is life. And if the baby wants to be part of it, he's gonna tag along.”
— Diana▶ 39:17
No, live your full life and let treatment fit around it. Diana traveled extensively during her successful cycle - Rome, Paris, Germany, Prague - walking 20km daily and working business shows. She conceived after shifting from scheduling life around treatments to letting baby tag along with her full life.
“I decided, you know what? The husband can come after. I'm still gonna have my baby. And if the husband wants to come, then he would come.”
— Diana▶ 38:05
Yes, Diana successfully had her baby as a single woman by choice. She chose Cyprus for treatment to avoid Belgium's psychological evaluation requirements, demonstrating that single motherhood by choice is a valid path that doesn't require waiting for the perfect partner.
“I didn't even, let's say, I didn't even grieve the failures because I didn't see them really as failures.”
— Diana▶ 42:02
Don't see them as failures to grieve. Diana didn't mourn her 4 failed IVF cycles, viewing them as learning and preparation instead. She focused on how the fitness and health foundation from those years made her pregnancy amazing, reframing setbacks as preparation.
“When I did write that letter to that woman, and I went after to the when when I was in Cyprus, the the time after, and I saw her coming down the stairs to welcome me, I didn't have that anger anymore.”
— Diana▶ 31:17
Writing forgiveness letters to release anger toward medical providers or others who've hurt you on the journey. Diana wrote a letter forgiving her clinic coordinator who dismissed her questions, and when she returned, her anger was gone and the relationship became peaceful.
Diana's approach to fighting for what she needed medically
Don't accept initial no answers
When doctors say no to tests or medications you want, push back and ask to speak to supervisors or other doctors
Fight for your treatment preferences
Insist on transfer protocols that feel right to you, even if doctors recommend differently
Demand access to tests
If clinics say they only do certain tests for their own patients, make a scene and escalate until they accommodate you
Trust your instincts about timing
If you feel you need medication sooner than recommended, advocate for earlier treatment
Major life changes aligned with your values can dramatically shift fertility outcomes
Diana conceived naturally at 40 within 4 months of leaving Qatar, ending her unhealthy relationship, and moving back to Belgium after 4 failed IVF cycles over 4 years.
You don't need permission from anyone - not governments, doctors, or family - to pursue your fertility dreams
Diana chose Cyprus over Belgium to avoid psychological evaluation requirements, fought for her medications and tests when doctors said no, and insisted on transferring all 3 embryos against medical advice.
Living your life fully during fertility treatment, not putting everything on hold, creates the energy for conception
Diana traveled to Rome, Paris, Germany, and Prague during her successful pregnancy cycle, walking 20 kilometers daily in Rome and working business shows, refusing to stop living for her baby.
Forgiveness work can transform toxic relationships with medical providers and clear energetic blocks
Diana wrote a forgiveness letter to the clinic coordinator who repeatedly dismissed her questions, and when she returned to Cyprus, her anger was gone and the relationship was peaceful.
Becoming your own advocate means fighting for what you need, even when medical professionals say no
Diana fought for progesterone injections the night before transfer when doctors wanted to wait, insisted on transferring all 3 embryos instead of discarding one, and demanded genetic testing when initially denied.
Deciding you're not taking no for an answer creates unstoppable momentum
Diana's 'no is not a word this woman was willing to listen to' attitude applied to relationships, medical providers, and life decisions, leading to her baby boy Matthew.
Letting go of past failures and not grieving them as failures shifts your energy toward success
Diana didn't see her 4 failed IVF cycles as failures - the first was learning, the others were preparation, and by November she completely let go and stopped dieting.
Your baby will tag along when you live your life, rather than life tagging along to treatment
Diana shifted from scheduling life around treatments to letting treatment tag along with her full life - traveling, working, house-buying - and conceived that cycle.
Single motherhood by choice is a valid path that doesn't require waiting for the perfect partner
Diana started IVF at 36 as a single woman rather than wait for marriage, with her Qatari boss telling her 'the biggest philosophers in Islam were raised by single moms.'
Major life changes aligned with your values can dramatically shift fertility outcomes
▶ 34:04You don't need permission from anyone - not governments, doctors, or family - to pursue your fertility dreams
▶ 1:43Living your life fully during fertility treatment, not putting everything on hold, creates the energy for conception
▶ 22:38Forgiveness work can transform toxic relationships with medical providers and clear energetic blocks
▶ 31:17Becoming your own advocate means fighting for what you need, even when medical professionals say no
▶ 20:54Deciding you're not taking no for an answer creates unstoppable momentum
▶ 2:34Letting go of past failures and not grieving them as failures shifts your energy toward success
▶ 42:02Your baby will tag along when you live your life, rather than life tagging along to treatment
▶ 39:17Single motherhood by choice is a valid path that doesn't require waiting for the perfect partner
▶ 4:37“You need to put your life on hold and schedule everything around fertility treatments”
CONSIDER: Live your full life and let the baby tag along - treatments should fit into your life, not control it
“Failed IVF cycles are failures you need to grieve”
CONSIDER: Past cycles are learning experiences and preparation, not failures to mourn
“You should accept medical authority and not question doctor recommendations”
CONSIDER: Become your own advocate and fight for what you need, even when medical providers say no
“Diana refused to wait around for the perfect prince charming or arbitrary permission from some fucking government alleged authority to decide for her whether or not she was having her baby.”
“No is not a word that this woman was willing to listen to.”
“This is life, and treatment tags along. And this is life. And if the baby wants to be part of it, he's gonna tag along.”
“You're not throwing away. You're not wasting one of them. You put the three in, you know?”
“If I want my baby, I need to change to make changes in my life.”
“I didn't even grieve the failures because I didn't see them really as failures.”
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Statistics are not your destiny - you can choose to be an outlier rather than a statistic
Erika overcame stage 4 endometriosis, multiple failed IVF cycles, and a 0% chance of natural conception to conceive naturally at 31 after 9 years of trying.
Fertility challenges transcend age - you can have the diagnosis of someone in their fifties while in your twenties
Erika was told at 29 that her AMH and egg counts were like those of a 50-year-old, yet she still conceived naturally at 31.
Your mindset determines whether you see yourself as a victim of circumstances or an empowered woman who can overcome any obstacle on your fertility journey.
Anne Marie transformed from seeing herself as a 'barren orphan' to an empowered woman who switched clinics twice, advocated for the ERA test, and ultimately conceived at 40 after 5 years of challenges including life-threatening ectopic pregnancy.
When doctors dismiss your requests for testing or treatment options, you have every right to leave and find a provider who will partner with you in your care.
Anne Marie left her first clinic when they refused the ERA test, then left her second clinic when they pushed donor eggs without trying her own eggs first. At the third clinic, she got pregnant within 6 months using her own eggs at 40.
