Amanda shares her journey from autoimmune disease, low AMH, and a 3% chance of natural conception to successfully conceiving her miracle son through IUI. Her story includes overcoming multiple medical setbacks, learning to surrender control, and advocating for herself when told her baby wouldn't survive at 10 weeks pregnant.
AmandaAge 35· IUI· Baby boyBefore
Devastated, couldn't talk about fertility without crying, living in fear and control, people-pleasing, lack of self-love
Key Shift
Learning true surrender vs giving up, developing self-advocacy, trusting her body, setting boundaries, addressing childhood trauma
After
Confident in medical decisions, able to surrender while taking action, living joyfully, trusting divine timing
Amanda's journey began with typical fertility struggles that doctors couldn't explain, despite heavy periods and obvious symptoms. After years of being told everything was normal, a functional medicine practitioner immediately identified Hashimoto's autoimmune disease as the root cause affecting her thyroid, gut health, and fertility.
Amanda's willingness to change doctors twice led to crucial discoveries, including uterine polyps that were missed by the first specialist. Her gut instinct about resonating with practitioners became a key factor in her success, demonstrating the importance of finding medical advocates who truly care.
The breakthrough came when Amanda learned to distinguish between surrender (trusting while living fully) and giving up (becoming desperate). Within six months of embracing this energetic shift in 2023, focusing on joy and fun rather than control, she conceived through IUI.
At 10 weeks pregnant, Amanda was told her baby wouldn't survive due to severe bleeding and a subchorionic hematoma. Rather than accepting this doom prediction, she surrendered to the highest good and watched her body respond - the bleeding stopped overnight and the hematoma eventually healed completely.
“she was like, no doctors ever told you that, you know, you have an autoimmune disease. And I was like, what are you talking about? She's like, oh, yeah. She's like, you have Hashimoto. Very typical, you know, one of the most common autoimmune diseases out there, but it affects your thyroid, and pretty much your body is attacking your thyroid.”
— Amanda▶ 16:10
Autoimmune conditions like Hashimoto's attack the thyroid, which affects gut health and hormone regulation, directly impacting fertility. Many fertility specialists focus on reproductive organs rather than looking at root causes.
“I couldn't delineate the difference between surrender and giving up. And, yeah, I would have, like, dreams about letting go. And I'm like, I need to know. I need to let go. I just don't know how because I need to control this.”
— Amanda▶ 22:03
Surrender means trusting something bigger while still living your life fully and taking inspired action. Giving up means becoming passive and desperate. Surrender has a completely different energy that actually attracts what you want.
“I am the leader of this. Like, I am running this three ring circus. The this is my circus. These are my monkeys. And getting everybody else in line to focus in on your success.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:54
Absolutely. You're running your fertility journey, not your doctor. If a specialist doesn't resonate with you, isn't compassionate, or misses obvious diagnoses, find someone who truly advocates for your success.
“It wasn't until I decided I was gonna be fine that the hematoma started healing. And for the first two weeks, my hematoma was still there and it wasn't shrinking. And then I decided, again, I'm just gonna let this go. This will heal on its own. It wasn't until in my mind that I said this is gonna heal that my body responded.”
— Amanda▶ 34:00
Yes, your body responds directly to your mental decisions. When you truly decide healing will happen and let go of fear, your body often follows that command and begins the healing process.
“you're gonna be a victim of statistics, long faced miserable proclamations about your prognosis... you're handing your power over to everyone else without taking even a moment to say, wait a minute. I am the leader of this.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:34
Fertility statistics are population averages that don't determine your individual outcome. You get to choose whether to focus on the percentage chance of success or failure - both are real possibilities for you.
“I literally had to surrender to no control over this. The worst experience ever. And, you know, I remember in the hospital, my husband, I just hold hands and be like, he's a miracle, and he's still alive right now.”
— Amanda▶ 25:51
Remember that you don't have to accept their worst-case scenario as your truth. Get second opinions, trust your intuition, and focus on what you can control - your response and your belief in the highest good outcome.
When doctors can't explain your fertility issues, it's often because they're not looking at root causes like autoimmune conditions that affect hormones and gut health.
Amanda had heavy periods and unexplained infertility for 2+ years until a functional medicine practitioner immediately identified her Hashimoto's autoimmune disease, which was attacking her thyroid and affecting her fertility through gut-hormone connection.
Your body responds directly to your mental decisions - when you decide healing will happen, your body follows that command.
Amanda's subchorionic hematoma stopped shrinking for 2 weeks while she lived in fear, then began healing immediately after she decided 'this is gonna heal' and let go of worry. The hematoma completely resolved after her mental shift.
Surrender and giving up are energetically completely different - surrender is trusting something bigger while still taking action, giving up is becoming a victim.
Amanda conceived through IUI within 6 months of learning true surrender in 2023, after 3+ years of trying. She distinguished surrender (trusting divine timing while living fully) from giving up (becoming passive and desperate).
You must be willing to change doctors when they don't resonate with you or provide compassionate care - you're running this circus.
Amanda changed fertility specialists twice and switched hospitals mid-pregnancy when told 'here's a diaper, go home' at 10 weeks. Her willingness to advocate for better care directly contributed to her son's survival and her positive pregnancy outcome.
Desperate energy repels what you want - your future child wants to come to a fun, joyful mom living her life, not someone who has put everything on hold.
Amanda conceived after deciding in 2023 to focus on fun, enjoying life, having drinks, and not obsessing about diet. Within 6 months of this energetic shift from desperation to joy, she conceived through IUI.
Statistics are meaningless when applied to your individual case - you get to choose whether to be a statistic or an exception.
Amanda was given a 3% chance of natural conception and 10% with IUI, but chose to focus on the 10% possibility rather than the 90% failure rate. She succeeded with IUI, proving statistics don't determine individual outcomes.
Your subconscious programming controls your fertility outcomes more than you realize - you must do the inner work to uncover what you're really thinking.
Amanda discovered through mindset work that childhood trauma, lack of self-love, and people-pleasing patterns were affecting her fertility. After addressing these subconscious blocks through the Fearlessly Fertile Method, she conceived within 6 months.
Medical professionals often give worst-case scenarios without empathy, but you don't have to accept their doom and gloom as your truth.
Amanda was told at 10 weeks pregnant 'here's a diaper, go home, this baby won't make it' due to a subchorionic hematoma. She chose not to believe this prognosis, surrendered to the highest good, and carried her baby to 36+ weeks successfully.
When doctors can't explain your fertility issues, it's often because they're not looking at root causes like autoimmune conditions that affect hormones and gut health.
▶ 16:10Your body responds directly to your mental decisions - when you decide healing will happen, your body follows that command.
▶ 34:00Surrender and giving up are energetically completely different - surrender is trusting something bigger while still taking action, giving up is becoming a victim.
▶ 22:03You must be willing to change doctors when they don't resonate with you or provide compassionate care - you're running this circus.
▶ 13:35Desperate energy repels what you want - your future child wants to come to a fun, joyful mom living her life, not someone who has put everything on hold.
▶ 22:21Statistics are meaningless when applied to your individual case - you get to choose whether to be a statistic or an exception.
▶ 15:09Your subconscious programming controls your fertility outcomes more than you realize - you must do the inner work to uncover what you're really thinking.
▶ 39:42Medical professionals often give worst-case scenarios without empathy, but you don't have to accept their doom and gloom as your truth.
▶ 27:11“Age is the primary factor in fertility decline and you should panic about getting pregnant after 35”
CONSIDER: Age is often used as a catch-all excuse when doctors don't have real answers for your fertility challenges
“You should follow whatever the 'best' fertility specialist tells you without question”
CONSIDER: The 'best of the best' specialist may not be the right fit for you - trust your gut and find doctors who truly care about your success
“here's a diaper, go home. This baby's not gonna make it”
“I am the leader of this. Like, I am running this three ring circus. The this is my circus. These are my monkeys.”
“desperate is not attractive”
“It wasn't until in my mind that I said this is gonna heal that my body responded”
“why would this child wanna come into this world with me putting so much emphasis on it? I mean, doesn't I wanna come into, like, a fun mom who's enjoying her life?”
EP291: 9 Years, Stage 4 Endo, Repeated Failed IVF, and A 0% Chance to Pregnant Naturally: Erika’s Story
How do you go from stage 4 endometriosis, failed IVF, and a 0% chance to pregnant naturally in Disney World?
EP367: 10 Years to Healthy Baby Girl: Lavinia's Story
How a Romanian woman overcame 10 years of fertility struggles, multiple IVF failures, and autoimmune issues to hold her baby girl at 43 by shifting from victim to victor.
EP260 They Said Donor Eggs Were Her Only Option…She Got Pregnant Naturally Over 40: Tanya’s Story
After five years of trying and three failed IVF cycles, Tanya was told donor eggs were her only option—but she got pregnant naturally at 40 while training for a half marathon.
Frameworks & Methods
Statistics are not your destiny - you can choose to be an outlier rather than a statistic
Erika overcame stage 4 endometriosis, multiple failed IVF cycles, and a 0% chance of natural conception to conceive naturally at 31 after 9 years of trying.
Fertility challenges transcend age - you can have the diagnosis of someone in their fifties while in your twenties
Erika was told at 29 that her AMH and egg counts were like those of a 50-year-old, yet she still conceived naturally at 31.
The fertility journey can be a catalyst for complete life transformation if you allow it to wake you up to an entirely different way of living
Lavinia spent 10 years on her fertility journey from age 33-43, transforming from someone living in victim mentality to an empowered woman who now coaches other women through fertility struggles.
You can meditate all day, but if you don't change the underlying belief system that's causing you to be stuck in worst-case scenario thinking, meditation alone won't create the transformation you need
Lavinia tried meditation and felt better physically but still had racing thoughts about 'what if I transfer and it doesn't work' until she addressed her limiting beliefs through mindset work.
