Dr. Robert Kiltz, founder of CNY Fertility, shares his revolutionary approach combining Western medicine with mindset work and spirituality. This powerful conversation explores how thoughts and beliefs directly impact fertility outcomes, with practical wisdom from a physician who has helped bring over 20,000 babies into the world.
RosanneAge 43· natural· Baby boyBefore
Prosecutor who thought she knew everything, following statistics and medical advice
Key Shift
Refused to be a statistic and changed her mindset to believe her baby was coming
After
Humbled and transformed into the mother she needed to be
Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility
Key Insights
Actionable Advice
Dr. Robert Kiltz shares his journey from conventional medicine to integrating spirituality and mindset work. As founder of CNY Fertility with over 20,000 births, he challenges medical terminology like 'advanced maternal age' and teaches that faith and belief matter more than statistics.
The conversation explores the scientific basis for mind-body connection in fertility. Dr. Kiltz explains how stress hormones directly impact reproductive organ function, while positive thoughts and self-love create optimal conditions for conception.
Both Rosanne and Dr. Kiltz share how fertility struggles force necessary growth and transformation. They discuss viewing challenges as fertilizer for personal evolution rather than punishment or failure.
The episode concludes with practical guidance on combining faith-based practices with medical intervention. Dr. Kiltz emphasizes that spiritual alignment enhances rather than replaces medical care.
“I always say this thing here matters more than anything else. And so our definitions are part of the problem. You're old, I'm not healthy, I got problems, well, then that creates that within us.”
— Dr. Robert Kiltz▶ 9:19
Your mindset directly impacts fertility through the mind-body connection. Negative thoughts increase stress hormones like cortisol, which reduces blood flow to reproductive organs. Positive thinking and self-love create the optimal internal environment for conception.
“We use this term advanced maternal age. And so we create the definitions or the language that makes us all feel old, when in fact, we're not.”
— Dr. Robert Kiltz▶ 7:36
Yes, natural pregnancy after 40 is absolutely possible. Age labels like 'advanced maternal age' are just medical terminology that can create limiting beliefs. Your individual potential isn't determined by statistics or averages.
“Faith first. That's the mind. That's the thinking mind. That's all been driven from human beings' creation and understanding of how spirituality and the words and the vibration, which within all of us matter more than anything.”
— Dr. Robert Kiltz▶ 10:21
Spirituality and faith create the foundation for fertility success by aligning your mind and reducing stress. When combined with medical treatment, spiritual practices like meditation, prayer, and positive visualization enhance your body's natural fertility processes.
“The statistics, I call them lies, damn lies, and statistics, which is, I it's a Mark Twain made that one up. Because we're type a, we like data. I'm a mathematician. I couldn't read, but I knew science and math. But I then begin to learn that actually it's made up as much as anything else is.”
— Dr. Robert Kiltz▶ 7:36
Fertility statistics can become self-fulfilling prophecies when they create fear and stress. While useful for general guidance, statistics represent averages and don't determine individual outcomes. Your belief in your own potential matters more than any percentage.
“When you hear 'I love you' your body feels good; when someone yells at you, you retract - nothing was touched, just language affecting your body”
— Dr. Robert Kiltz▶ 16:00
The mind-body connection in fertility means your thoughts directly affect your physical reproductive function. Positive thoughts reduce stress hormones and improve blood flow to reproductive organs, while negative thoughts create physiological barriers to conception.
“Infertility is a gift that teaches you to shift and change to find happiness exactly where you are while adventuring to identify other paths that you can follow to learn.”
— Dr. Robert Kiltz▶ 12:24
Fertility treatment failure often requires addressing both medical and mindset factors. Focus on self-love, challenge limiting beliefs about your age or diagnosis, and combine spiritual practices with medical care. Treatment failure can redirect you toward better solutions.
Dr. Kiltz's approach to integrating mindset work with medical fertility treatment
Challenge limiting language
Question medical terminology like 'advanced maternal age' that creates negative self-definitions
Practice mirror work
Look in the mirror daily and practice self-love and acceptance
Reduce stress hormones
Use meditation, prayer, and positive visualization to lower cortisol and improve blood flow to reproductive organs
Combine faith with medicine
Integrate spiritual practices with medical treatment rather than seeing them as separate
Reframe the struggle
View fertility challenges as gifts that force growth and transformation
Focus on individual potential
Remember that statistics represent averages, not your personal possibilities
The mind is the master of fertility success - what you think matters more than any statistic or test result
Dr. Kiltz has helped bring over 20,000 babies into the world using this approach, and Rosanne conceived naturally at 43 despite being told she needed donor eggs at 37.
Statistics are lies, damn lies, and statistics - they represent averages, not individual potential
Dr. Kiltz, a mathematician and fertility specialist, explains that most science is defined in averages but as an individual, you can be and do anything you believe you can.
The term 'advanced maternal age' creates the definitions and language that makes women feel old when they're not
Dr. Kiltz challenges medical terminology that labels women over 35 as high-risk, noting how these definitions become self-fulfilling prophecies that increase stress and cortisol.
When you hear 'I love you' your body feels good; when someone yells at you, you retract - nothing was touched, just language affecting your body
Dr. Kiltz explains this as the science of how the human body reacts faster than conscious thought to language and energy, demonstrating the mind-body connection.
Infertility is a gift that teaches you to shift and change to find happiness exactly where you are
Dr. Kiltz, who has guided thousands through fertility journeys, teaches that the struggle is cleansing and forces growth that wouldn't happen otherwise.
Stress increases cortisol and epinephrine which adversely affects blood flow to the core where ovaries, uterus and reproductive organs lie
Dr. Kiltz explains the physiological mechanism of how negative thinking creates stress hormones that directly impact reproductive organ function.
The real health and wellness journey begins with yourself in the mirror and learning how to love in the mirror
Dr. Kiltz teaches that self-love creates a vibration that attracts the tools and alignment needed for fertility success, based on his experience with over 20,000 births.
Faith first - that's the mind, that's the thinking mind, that matters more than anything
Dr. Kiltz, a former atheist turned spiritual practitioner, teaches that faith and belief are the foundation that must come before medical interventions.
The mind is the master of fertility success - what you think matters more than any statistic or test result
▶ 9:19Statistics are lies, damn lies, and statistics - they represent averages, not individual potential
▶ 7:36The term 'advanced maternal age' creates the definitions and language that makes women feel old when they're not
▶ 7:36When you hear 'I love you' your body feels good; when someone yells at you, you retract - nothing was touched, just language affecting your body
▶ 16:00Infertility is a gift that teaches you to shift and change to find happiness exactly where you are
▶ 12:24Stress increases cortisol and epinephrine which adversely affects blood flow to the core where ovaries, uterus and reproductive organs lie
▶ 10:51The real health and wellness journey begins with yourself in the mirror and learning how to love in the mirror
▶ 18:36Faith first - that's the mind, that's the thinking mind, that matters more than anything
▶ 10:21“Women over 35 have advanced maternal age and poor fertility prospects”
CONSIDER: Age labels are just language that creates limiting beliefs - you are not a statistic
“Statistics and test results determine your fertility outcome”
CONSIDER: Statistics represent averages, not individual potential - your mind matters more than any number
“Infertility is a disease or punishment that needs to be fixed”
CONSIDER: Infertility is a gift that forces growth and teaches you to find happiness where you are
“I always say this thing here matters more than anything else.”
“The statistics, I call them lies, damn lies, and statistics.”
“Infertility is a gift that teaches you to shift and change to find happiness exactly where you are.”
“The minute I refuse to be a statistic, and I said, look, I don't know when, I don't know how, but I know this boy is coming.”
“Faith first. That's the mind. That's the thinking mind. That matters more than anything.”
“The real health and wellness journey begins with yourself in the mirror and learning how to love in the mirror.”
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Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
Limiting beliefs about fertility can persist for decades without any medical evidence and become self-fulfilling prophecies
Katie carried the belief 'there's something wrong, you can't have a baby' for 20 years starting from her teens, despite never attempting to conceive or having any medical tests to support this belief
Your desire speaking louder than fear in pivotal moments reveals your inner truth
When told 'this might be your only chance' after Katie's second trimester loss, her immediate internal response was 'fuck that' - her desire refusing to accept limitation
You are the one fixing you, healing you—your medical team supports you, but ultimately you must believe in yourself
Agata went from trusting doctors completely through two failed IVF cycles to trusting herself and conceiving through IUI on the fourth attempt, now 26 weeks pregnant.
When treatment isn't working, stepping back to reassess your approach can reveal better options that align with your heart
Agata had never heard of IUI despite two failed IVF cycles. When she trusted her instinct for less invasive treatment and tried IUI, she conceived on the fourth attempt.
