Beth shares her powerful journey from multiple miscarriages including losing twins at 25 weeks to conceiving at 21 weeks pregnant through mindset transformation and medical advocacy. After years of calling herself a 'loser' and feeling defeated, she used Rosanne's Fearlessly Fertile Method to reclaim her identity and trust her intuition.
Beth· IVF· 21 weeks pregnantBefore
Called herself a 'loser,' felt like a victim, disconnected from her identity, comparing herself to others constantly
Key Shift
Started asking 'what would I do if I liked myself again?' and began investing in herself, switched to a more supportive medical team
After
Confident, trusting her intuition, advocating for her needs, reconnected with who Beth really is
Beth shares her devastating fertility journey that began in 2012 with multiple miscarriages, including the traumatic loss of twins at 25 weeks. After years of losses and failed treatments, she found herself calling herself a 'loser' and losing her sense of identity completely.
The turning point came when Beth heard Rosanne's podcast and asked herself 'what would I do if I liked myself again?' This simple question sparked a transformation that led her to invest in herself through the Fearlessly Fertile program and begin rebuilding her confidence.
Beth demonstrates the power of medical advocacy by switching fertility doctors when her first provider wouldn't accommodate her transfer protocol preferences. This decision to trust her intuition and stop being a victim led directly to her successful conception.
Now 21 weeks pregnant, Beth reflects on how she became her own silver bullet through mindset work, self-advocacy, and reconnecting with her true identity. Her story proves that internal transformation must precede external success on the fertility journey.
“what would I do if I liked myself again? And I started doing things that I would do if I liked myself.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 12:50
Start by asking yourself 'what would I do if I liked myself again?' and begin taking those actions. Recognize that calling yourself a loser is just your inner critic, not reality. Multiple losses don't define your worth - they show your courage to keep pursuing your dreams.
“I was done, like, being a victim. Like, I was done, like, letting people just, like, tell me what was right and what was wrong.”
— Beth▶ 21:12
Switch when your doctor doesn't listen to your concerns or accommodate reasonable requests that feel important to you. Trust your intuition if something doesn't feel right about your medical team's approach or communication style.
“the fucking silver bullet when all the chips are down is going to be you. It's going to come down to you.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 1:43
Focus on success stories instead of fear-based forums, clean up your mindset like cleaning your house, and remember that each cycle teaches you something. You become your own silver bullet through the inner work, not just the medical procedures.
“don't let that playground bully push you around in your head. And, like, I was, like, I've got the worst freaking playground bully ever.”
— Beth▶ 41:02
The playground bully is your inner critic that calls you names, tells you you're not good enough, and sabotages your confidence. It shows up especially after setbacks, making you feel like a victim instead of someone courageously pursuing their dreams.
“I felt like it was constantly, like, some sort of, like, inconvenience to, like, have my concerns heard and my needs met there.”
— Beth▶ 22:45
Speak up about treatments that don't feel right, ask questions, and don't be afraid to seek second opinions. If a doctor dismisses your concerns or makes you feel like an inconvenience, find someone who will listen and work with you as a partner.
“she became the silver bullet. Because it's really easy to go out and find the scary shit out there... but the thing that really matters on this journey, the fucking silver bullet when all the chips are down is going to be you.”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 1:43
Becoming your own silver bullet means taking responsibility for your mindset, advocating for your medical needs, and trusting your intuition. It's about internal transformation that creates the conditions for external success, rather than expecting treatments alone to solve everything.
You become your own silver bullet when you stop being a victim and start trusting your intuition about your medical team
Beth switched fertility doctors when her first doctor refused to do transfers without a drug that made her feel bad, leading to successful conception with the new doctor who accommodated her request
The playground bully in your head can be more destructive than any medical diagnosis
Beth called herself a 'loser' for years after multiple losses, which affected her work performance, friendships, and overall confidence until she learned to silence those thoughts
You have to start liking yourself again before your fertility dreams can come true
Beth's transformation began when she asked 'what would I do if I liked myself again?' and started investing in herself, leading to conception within a year
Cleaning out your mental house is as important as preparing your physical body
Beth physically cleaned and purged her house while doing mindset work, creating space mentally and physically that coincided with her husband's new job and successful conception
Success stories exist everywhere when you change your focus from fear to possibility
Beth discovered her friend had babies naturally at 36, 39, and 40 after IVF failed, plus other success stories 'came out of the woodwork' when she stopped focusing on low-vibe message boards
Fear and faith both require believing in something you can't see - you just have to choose
Beth acknowledged choosing fear throughout her journey until she consciously started choosing faith, which coincided with her successful conception at 21 weeks pregnant
You must become the woman who succeeded before you actually succeed
Beth had to rebuild her confidence, self-worth, and decision-making abilities before her IVF transfer worked, demonstrating identity shift preceding physical success
Multiple losses don't make you a loser - they make you a warrior who keeps showing up
Beth experienced losses at natural miscarriage, twins at 25 weeks, 13 weeks, and 12 weeks but reframed from 'loser' to 'someone who doesn't give up' and conceived successfully
You become your own silver bullet when you stop being a victim and start trusting your intuition about your medical team
▶ 1:43The playground bully in your head can be more destructive than any medical diagnosis
▶ 9:35You have to start liking yourself again before your fertility dreams can come true
▶ 12:50Cleaning out your mental house is as important as preparing your physical body
▶ 15:02Success stories exist everywhere when you change your focus from fear to possibility
▶ 17:16Fear and faith both require believing in something you can't see - you just have to choose
▶ 38:49You must become the woman who succeeded before you actually succeed
▶ 42:50Multiple losses don't make you a loser - they make you a warrior who keeps showing up
▶ 6:10“If you keep having miscarriages, there's something wrong with you as a person”
CONSIDER: Multiple losses don't define your worth - they show your courage to keep pursuing your dreams
“You should accept whatever your doctor tells you without question”
CONSIDER: You have the right to advocate for your needs and find providers who support your vision
“IVF is the silver bullet that will solve your fertility problems”
CONSIDER: You become your own silver bullet through mindset work and medical advocacy
“the fucking silver bullet when all the chips are down is going to be you. It's going to come down to you.”
“what would I do if I liked myself again? And I started doing things that I would do if I liked myself.”
“I was done, like, being a victim. Like, I was done, like, letting people just, like, tell me what was right and what was wrong.”
“don't let that playground bully push you around in your head. And, like, I was, like, I've got the worst freaking playground bully ever.”
“I needed to, like, start to like myself again. I did. Like, I needed to like myself again. I needed to, like, find Beth again”
“You have to be the woman who succeeded before you actually succeed.”
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Frameworks & Methods
You can be completely grateful for what you have and desire more—those two things are not mutually exclusive
Natalia at 44 already had two daughters but knew her family wasn't complete, overcame shame about wanting more and conceived naturally despite PCOS and hypothyroidism
Control comes from fear—when you're afraid of not getting pregnant, the way to tackle that becomes extreme controlling over everything you eat and do
Natalia spent 2 years controlling every aspect of her life—diet, acupuncture, TCM, avoiding alcohol—which made life miserable and disconnected her from her family until she learned to surrender
Worthiness issues from earlier relationships directly impact fertility journey outcomes and decision-making patterns.
Liz spent 10 years in an unhealthy relationship telling herself she didn't want kids rather than facing the reality, then ghosted her future husband because she couldn't believe he liked her for who she was. These same worthiness patterns showed up as immediately running to IVF after one miscarriage at 41.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything - relationship patterns will show up in your fertility journey.
Liz's pattern of feeling unworthy in her relationship (ghosting her husband because she couldn't believe he liked her) directly translated to feeling inadequate about conceiving and immediately seeking medical intervention after one miscarriage instead of trusting her body.
