Kara shares how she went from struggling with PCOS, miscarriage, and darkness to getting and staying pregnant with baby #2 within months of completing the Fearlessly Fertile Full Throttle program. Her journey demonstrates that secondary infertility pain is real and that mindset work transforms every area of life.
Kara· IVF· Baby girlBefore
In a dark place after miscarriage, everything negative, consumed with trying to conceive and missing time with existing daughter
Key Shift
Learned to receive help, stopped comparing to others, shifted from control to surrender, changed self-talk to positive affirmations
After
Present mother, positive mindset, able to dismiss statistics, confident in decisions, husband noticed total transformation
Rosanne addresses the often-dismissed pain of secondary infertility, emphasizing that when your family isn't complete, that suffering is real regardless of how many children you have. Kara shares how she found the podcast through a neighbor's recommendation during a dark period after miscarriage and PCOS struggles.
Kara describes feeling at rock bottom and recognizing that her body reacted to stress and negativity. Despite initial nervousness about the financial and time commitment, she decided to join the 90-day Full Throttle program, with her husband's full support recognizing she would do what felt right for her.
Kara experienced profound changes that extended beyond fertility into all areas of life - becoming a better mother, wife, and person. Her husband witnessed her complete transformation and even encouraged her to repeat the program when he noticed her slipping back into old patterns.
Initially resistant to IVF because others conceived naturally, Kara learned to make decisions from possibility rather than comparison. She shifted from fighting the process to receiving help from her medical team and community, ultimately leading to successful IVF pregnancy.
Kara developed the ability to view concerning test results as temporary numbers rather than permanent predictions, telling herself 'who cares, it's just a number' instead of spiraling into Google research and anxiety during her successful treatment cycle.
“I think at that point, it was kind of like, you know, I could do natural again. I know I did it with my daughter. I know my body, you know, eventually can do it. But I there was one one session where it was just kind of like, let people help you, you know, accept the help, accept people”
— Kara▶ 24:18
Yes, mindset work can significantly help with PCOS and secondary infertility. Kara overcame both PCOS and miscarriage to conceive baby #2 within months of completing mindset work, shifting from control to surrender and learning to receive help.
“you basically went from listening to this crazy lady on a podcast that your neighbor recommended to doing this program... you started April first. And, yeah, it's end of April. So Yeah. And you're twenty six weeks pregnant”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 27:14
Results can happen quickly with dedicated mindset work. Kara started the 90-day Full Throttle program in April and was pregnant by November of the same year, demonstrating that transformation can happen within months of consistent daily practice.
“When your family is not complete, that pain is real. And it is very easy for stories where a woman has a child already to to kinda blow that off. But this is exactly why you have to do the opposite”
— Rosanne Austin▶ 2:25
Yes, secondary infertility is as emotionally difficult as primary infertility. When your family feels incomplete, that pain is real regardless of how many children you already have. The struggle to conceive additional children creates the same emotional turmoil.
“there were a lot of times these this last year during the IUIs and the IVFs where, you know, it would be not necessarily great news. But I would just be like, who cares? You know? Like, it's just a number”
— Kara▶ 30:40
Don't ignore medical statistics completely, but don't let them control your mindset. View test results as temporary snapshots rather than permanent predictions. Focus on the fact that numbers can change each cycle rather than getting stuck in Google research spirals.
“I knew that my body definitely reacts to stress, definitely reacts to if I am negative about something or if I worry about something. I can feel things going on that I know kind of just stop what's going on”
— Kara▶ 15:00
Stress can physically impact your body's ability to conceive, especially with PCOS. The body responds to chronic stress, negativity, and controlling energy in ways that can block conception. Managing stress and shifting to positive energy can improve fertility outcomes.
Kara's process for moving from fighting treatment options to embracing support
Recognize the comparison trap
Notice when you're making decisions based on what worked for others rather than what feels right for your situation
Acknowledge your resistance
Identify where you're fighting the process or refusing help due to pride or comparison
Choose from possibility
Make treatment decisions from a place of clarity and power, not from comparison or fear
Open to receiving
Allow your medical team, community, and support system to help you on the journey
Secondary infertility pain is as real and valid as primary infertility - when your family isn't complete, that suffering matters
Kara struggled with PCOS and miscarriage while trying for baby #2, going through a year of darkness before finding success through mindset work at age 26 weeks pregnant during recording.
Judging other people's fertility struggles reflects the judgments we hold about ourselves - we have one finger pointing out and three pointing back
Rosanne addresses the tendency to dismiss secondary infertility stories, explaining how Kara's journey from PCOS and miscarriage to 26 weeks pregnant offers lessons for all women regardless of their specific circumstances.
When you don't have your mindset right, you're not actually present with the children you already have - you don't get that time back
Kara realized she was missing precious time with her 2-3 year old daughter because she was consumed with trying to conceive, listening to podcasts instead of being present during bedtime routines.
Your body reacts to stress and negativity in ways that can block conception - controlling energy needs to be released
Kara recognized her body physically responded to stress and worry, and her controlling nature around her daughter's naps and schedule was creating a spiral that affected all areas including fertility.
Learning to receive help and let people support you is crucial for fertility success - stop fighting the process
Kara initially resisted IVF because others conceived naturally, but learned to receive help from doctors and her community, leading to successful IVF pregnancy after failed IUIs.
Stop making medical decisions from a place of comparison to others - make decisions from possibility and what feels right for your situation
Kara got stuck comparing herself to women who conceived naturally instead of choosing IVF from a place of clarity and power, which ultimately led to her successful pregnancy.
Statistics and test results are just numbers, not permanent predictions - things can change each cycle
Kara learned to stop obsessing over blood work results and Google searches, instead telling herself 'who cares, it's just a number' when receiving concerning test results during her successful IVF cycle.
Shift from 'things happen TO us' to 'things happen FOR us' - this reframe changes your entire energy
Kara specifically mentions this mindset shift from the Full Throttle program helped her not just with fertility but with being a better wife, mother, and person overall.
Secondary infertility pain is as real and valid as primary infertility - when your family isn't complete, that suffering matters
▶ 2:34Judging other people's fertility struggles reflects the judgments we hold about ourselves - we have one finger pointing out and three pointing back
▶ 3:05When you don't have your mindset right, you're not actually present with the children you already have - you don't get that time back
▶ 22:23Your body reacts to stress and negativity in ways that can block conception - controlling energy needs to be released
▶ 15:00Learning to receive help and let people support you is crucial for fertility success - stop fighting the process
▶ 24:18Stop making medical decisions from a place of comparison to others - make decisions from possibility and what feels right for your situation
▶ 25:21Statistics and test results are just numbers, not permanent predictions - things can change each cycle
▶ 30:20Shift from 'things happen TO us' to 'things happen FOR us' - this reframe changes your entire energy
▶ 16:02“If other women can conceive naturally, I should be able to do it too”
CONSIDER: Make fertility decisions from what feels right for YOUR situation, not from comparison to others
“Medical statistics and test results determine my outcome”
CONSIDER: Numbers are just snapshots in time, not permanent predictions - things can change each cycle
“When your family is not complete, that pain is real. And it is very easy for stories where a woman has a child already to to kinda blow that off. But this is exactly why you have to do the opposite.”
“The judgments we hold of other people and their suffering is a reflection of the judgments we have of ourselves.”
“I knew it was gonna happen. Oh my goodness. Okay. So tell me about that because, you know, I hear this so often from women that they'll write it down, they'll put it on a a vision board”
“I was hooked. You know, I think I listened to the first, like, you know, thirty episodes in the first, like, month or whatever.”
“you totally changed. You totally changed into, a better version of yourself. And when I finished the ninety days, you know, he could tell that I was slowly slipping back, and he encouraged me to do it again”
“who cares? You know? Like, it's just a number. It's not necessarily like this is what it's going to be the next, you know, how many cycles we're going to be doing.”
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Conditions
Frameworks & Methods
Common Beliefs
Victimhood affects every area of life, not just fertility - recognizing this pattern is the first step to transformation
Jamie recognized she was playing victim not only about pregnancy but every aspect of life - getting upset about others' vacations to places she didn't even want to go. This self-awareness led her to seek mindset help.
When you surrender to receiving help and stop resisting IVF, success rates dramatically improve
Jamie heard another client's story about failing IVF because she wasn't in the right headspace. This prompted Jamie to fully accept IVF help, leading to 42 eggs retrieved, 14 blasts, 10 perfect embryos, and twins from her first transfer.
Where you spend your mental energy is what you manifest in your life - focusing on what you don't want brings more of what you don't want
Dr. Caroline spent mental energy worrying about needing IVF and having problems, and that's exactly what manifested in her life. When she shifted to focusing on success, she achieved two pregnancies.
Taking the 30,000 foot view and telling yourself your true story reveals stress patterns you couldn't see while living them
Dr. Caroline realized she went 'zero to sixty on stress' - starting to try while living on different coasts, during residency, with constant travel - but didn't recognize the stress in the moment.
