Lavinia
10 years journey from Spain · Fearlessly Fertile Method
The Transformation
Before
Living like a victim, constantly thinking worst-case scenarios, planning obsessively and getting destroyed when timelines didn't work out
Key Shift
Shifted from 'this is happening TO me' to 'this is happening FOR me' and reframed pregnancy loss as proof she could conceive
After
Empowered, trusting, able to schedule appointments 6 months in advance with complete faith in her outcome
In summary: Lavinia's story demonstrates that 10-year fertility journey, conceived at 43, and success with final embryo. She conceived IVFly at 43 despite Hashimoto's and Low AMH after a 10 years journey.
Breakthroughs2
Living from your vision means making appointments and plans based on your desired outcome, not your current circumstances
Lavinia scheduled her 8-week pregnancy checkup 6 months in advance before her embryo transfer, demonstrating complete faith in her outcome. She had to postpone it by one month but kept the appointment and was indeed pregnant.
▶ 28:03Being a mom in your 40s after a long fertility journey means you appreciate every moment differently because you know how precious and fleeting it all is
Lavinia had her daughter at 43 after 10 years of trying and says she enjoys contact sleeping and night wakings that other moms complain about because she knows these phases pass quickly.
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Teachings7
The fertility journey can be a catalyst for complete life transformation if you allow it to wake you up to an entirely different way of living
Lavinia spent 10 years on her fertility journey from age 33-43, transforming from someone living in victim mentality to an empowered woman who now coaches other women through fertility struggles.
▶ 36:41You can meditate all day, but if you don't change the underlying belief system that's causing you to be stuck in worst-case scenario thinking, meditation alone won't create the transformation you need
Lavinia tried meditation and felt better physically but still had racing thoughts about 'what if I transfer and it doesn't work' until she addressed her limiting beliefs through mindset work.
▶ 14:45The switch from 'this is happening TO me' to 'this is happening FOR me' is critical for success on the fertility journey
Lavinia identified this mindset shift as key to her transformation from victim to empowered creator, allowing her to take advantage of her experiences and continue moving forward instead of staying stuck.
▶ 26:00You can tell when someone is going to be successful based on how they think about their past experiences and setbacks
Lavinia was able to reframe her pregnancy loss as proof she could conceive rather than evidence of failure, demonstrating the thinking pattern that leads to eventual success.
▶ 23:29When doctors immediately recommend IVF based solely on age without proper testing, it's time to seek a second opinion
At age 36, Lavinia was told by a fertility doctor to do IVF without comprehensive testing. She walked away and sought other options, demonstrating the importance of advocating for proper evaluation.
▶ 5:28Working on yourself isn't just beneficial for you - it's creating the optimal environment for your baby to develop in utero
Lavinia recognized that her mindset transformation meant her baby wouldn't be 'swimming around in cortisol' and that she became a better mother because of the personal growth work she did during her 10-year journey.
▶ 30:51The mindset work needed for fertility success extends beyond just getting to a positive pregnancy test - you need mental strength for the full 40 weeks
Lavinia experienced fear creeping back in after her positive test, remembering her previous loss, but was able to use her mindset tools to stay grounded throughout pregnancy.
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Reframes1
A positive pregnancy test followed by loss is actually proof that you CAN get pregnant - it's evidence of your body's ability, not failure
Lavinia had a positive pregnancy test that ended in loss, which she initially saw as her 'rock bottom.' Through mindset work, she reframed it as proof she could get pregnant and just needed to find the way to stay pregnant.
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Quotable Moments6
“You can meditate all fucking day. But if you don't change the underlying belief system that's causing you to be stuck in what if limited thinking, the worst case scenarios, the meditation is not going to change that on its own.”
— Rosanne Austin14:45“This is when I realized that this is this is my issue because I started maybe I wasn't like this always, but I started at some point to feel like a victim. It doesn't happen to me. Everybody else is getting pregnant. I'm not.”
— Lavinia20:09“I realized that, no, this was really strange to say, but it's like a blessing because I found out that I can get pregnant. So it was only to find the way to stay pregnant.”
— Lavinia23:46“In October, I'm sure that I'm going to be pregnant. And, well, I did it. I I had to postpone for one month because we had to postpone also the the transfer for one month. But in the end, I I just I went for it”
— Lavinia28:23“despite all of her pain, all of her misery, Lavinia is holding her baby girl today because she had the courage to say yes.”
— Rosanne Austin1:22“They have to trust it, that it will happen in in its own time. I always was thinking that, okay. This is this is my journey. This is what I have to do. This was my fight, let's say, or my journey that I was I had to leave it.”
— Lavinia35:48
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