Melissa

Natural pregnancies during IVF failures are evidence your body knows how to conceive naturally

Melissa had 4 out of 5 pregnancies naturally (despite low AMH diagnosis) but continued IVF because she was told that was the only way. She realized 'I'm actually fertile as f***' and conceived naturally at 39 just 2 months after stopping IVF.

Isolation and lack of understanding compound fertility journey trauma

Melissa described 5 years of withdrawing from friendships and removing herself from social situations. Her first group coaching call was 'cathartic' because it was 'the very first time in five years I felt heard and understood and not lonely.'

You can feel joy and peace while still wanting your baby

Melissa reached a point where she told her husband 'I have never been this happy in my entire life' with no baby in sight. She said 'I don't even mind if we don't have a baby' while still believing it would come. She conceived one month later.

You must make a conscious decision to become a mom, not just have a preference

Melissa distinguished between having a general idea of becoming a mom someday versus making the conscious decision to actively pursue motherhood. This shift from preference to decision catalyzed her success after 5 years of struggle.

When you change your mindset, you change your beliefs, actions, and results

Melissa changed jobs to less stressful work, hired a nutritionist, invested in coaching, went to bed early, and made decisions from abundance rather than scarcity. These actions led to natural conception at 39 after years of IVF failure.

The fertility journey is preparation for motherhood, not punishment

Melissa stated 'if I hadn't gone through this five years, I wouldn't have become the mom that my daughter actually deserves.' She used the tools learned during fertility struggles to navigate postpartum depression and anxiety successfully.

Resistance often signals you're on the right path

Melissa learned that 'when you're feel the resistance the most is when you know all your saboteurs are fighting their hardest to reroute you from the right path.' This helped her push through difficult moments and make empowering decisions.

Just make the fucking decision and stop making excuses

Melissa continues to use this principle in all areas of life, even asking herself 'what would Rosanne do? She would tell me to just make the fucking decision' when facing personal challenges as a new mother.