Somaya

Secondary infertility creates unique isolation because you don't fit into either the 'can't conceive' club or the 'conceive easily' club, leading to shame and guilt about wanting more

Somaya experienced secondary infertility after her first son, enduring three ectopic pregnancies and multiple miscarriages while feeling guilty about not being grateful for her existing child.

You cannot settle if that's not what your heart is calling for—toxic positivity of 'be grateful for what you have' keeps women from pursuing their true desires

Somaya refused to listen to people saying 'be grateful, you have a son' and instead pursued her dream of a second child through three ectopic pregnancies and multiple miscarriages.

Medical misdiagnoses and mistakes happen frequently—Somaya experienced two major errors from the same London hospital within 12 months

Somaya's first ectopic was misdiagnosed as missed miscarriage leading to rupture, then a year later she was given wrong blood test results for her second ectopic pregnancy.

Successful professionals often fail to apply their strategic thinking to fertility, instead relying on hope rather than creating a comprehensive plan with experts and resources

Somaya, a top legal recruiter in London, realized she would strategically involve experts for professional challenges but was just 'living on a prayer and hope' for her fertility journey.

When you're the most certain person in the room, everyone else will take a listen—you have just as much chance of being right as the doctors

Somaya challenged a renowned London fertility doctor with 40 years experience, saying 'Stop. This is all a red herring. I want you to run these tests,' and he agreed, leading to transformational results.

Lack and scarcity mindset isn't just about money—it's about time, opportunity, and most tragically about love, silencing the truth that there is abundance all around

Somaya overcame her working-class immigrant background's scarcity mindset, eventually buying herself a car as a celebration when she had her second baby, demonstrating abundance thinking.

If the only thing you think will fix you is a baby, no baby wants to come into that ugly environment—it's too much pressure on the child

Somaya realized she was creating an 'ugly environment' of obsession and desperation, only conceiving naturally when she reached peace and trust in the process.

Faith means being all in for the long haul, while hope is one foot out the door—you can have faith in God while still taking strategic action

Somaya, a practicing Muslim, maintained deep faith through three ectopic pregnancies while also 'tying up her camel'—taking concrete action including mindset coaching and medical advocacy.

Successful women must recognize fertility requires a different skill set—what made you successful in law school won't necessarily work for getting pregnant

Somaya, despite being a top legal recruiter in London, had to learn entirely new ways of thinking, believing, and taking action specifically for her fertility journey.

The grit required to overcome three ectopic pregnancies, repeated miscarriage, and self-doubt while being a top professional demonstrates the power of commitment to growth

Somaya endured three ectopic pregnancies, multiple miscarriages, and 20 months of trying while running a successful executive search firm, ultimately conceiving naturally at 38.